squidpup - I am so sorry to hear about your situation. Everyone who told you how wonderful it would be lied, I don't know why (I guess they wanted to ruin your lives like theirs were ruined). Those people who told you how wonderful it would be, bet you wished you had asked them if they would adopt your kids if you didn't think it was as wonderful as they said (I bet the look on their face would have clued you in). It is probably too late for the safe place law so you might want to consider adoption.
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