I found this forum after typing in 'I hate being a wife and mother into google'. I am not actually a wife- not yet, and today I feel like saying, not yet thank the lord. I have a daughter who will be 3 in July, and today I am thoroughly disliking being a mom. Not every day is like this, and I know full well I'm feeling like this because 1)I am ill at the moment, 2) her dad is not pulling his weight and 3)Everything else that I have on just now would just be so much easier if I didn't have a sick, annoying, crying faced tantrum throwing brat at my heels. That said, she is not always a brat, is very loving, smart, funny, beautiful ... but she curbs my sense of self, freedom, expression- even when I'm mad at her I feel like i'm repressing myself for not being as mad as I'd like to be. I feel guilty all the time! Anyway, I am glad I am not alone in my feelings. Today I felt like pushing the buggy away from me and walking off. Of course I didn't but the thought did occur. I think women need to acknowledge that it's normal to feel like this - but, hey, there's so much else going on the world, war, starvation, illness; perspective is definitely the key. And I hate being a wife much more than I do a mother