I'm so glad I stumbled onto this website. My husband and I are considering ivf, and I'm battling whether to go forward with it. I have no kids, but we have his daughter part-time. I give so much of my time to her but reap none of the "rewards" since I'm not a "real mom." I don't know what my motivations are for suddenly wanting to try to have a child--I never wanted one until a few years ago--and even now, I'm worried that I'll resent the loss of financial freedom that we've worked so hard to achieve. Jenny, your thoughts, as well as others who've posted, have pushed me to think even harder about this decision. Thank you for sharing such intimate thoughts.