Can I just say, that even those who say they try to "act" like they are enjoying it or geniuenly love their kids - the kid can tell. I certainly did. In fact this made me challenge my parents more. They had one child and through pressure from family they had me. Unfortunately I was a bit more challenging child (collic and adhd) so they spent the first few years of my life pretending that they enjoyed it and truly loved me - but I always remember feeling the void. Eventually it blossomed into full blown RAD on my part (Reactive Attachment Disorder) *I was diagnosed with this now - it didn't exist back then and I don't still suffer from the affects* Keeping I child you don't connect with/enjoy/love can have very damaging affects - trust me the child can tell.

Mindy, Adoption Editor
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