Gemineye, you are right!! Transcending is the key. Until we "go home" in our understanding all else is torment and emptiness. When you leave here, even while in this physical body, you have given this all up but at the same time you become it all. This is beyond the flesh and physical and becomes eternal. I have spoken of this another time but let me restate;
Go on youtube and go to "the grapes of wrath I'll be there".

That is the closest definition of the spirit "us" that I have ever seen and the closest to what my family was all about.