some people have a desire to fail. Your friendd belongs to that group. They complain about their bad luck and hard work but do not grab the chance when it comes.
I don't know if she has a desire to fail, cd. She's just a very anxious person and worries constantly, though sometimes she's a little better or worse. She knows she has a problem with anxiousness and negativity, and is trying to get a hold of her worries as best she can. I guess i can sympathize with her because i know i often make foolish decisions, too, out of fear. It can be a hard thing to fight against.