I too have thought much about birth order. Just think about this. A first child. Wanted. Parents are younger and have more of a positive attitude about the future. But as time goes on the parents are getting older and tireder, if that's a word. Second child is kind of a redo from the first. Parents have learned alot and do things a bit differently. Maybe make some of the same mistakes but not as many. Parents are learning. They went to school on the first one. Isn't that when parents make the most mistakes?

As far as how they treat the children. I think people learn from each other how to treat each other. Does that make any sense? If a person treats someone a certain way in the beginning and aren't corrected if they are mean and hurtful, they just keep doing it. So if Mum and Dad don't treat one child very nice the other children learn that from them. I'm not saying this happens in ALL families, just in the abusive ones.

My best friend is much older than I am. Her daughter is about 10 years younger than me. I see how she treats her and I get sick. BECAUSE she treats her with consideration, respect, dignity and honour. I feel so cheated yet I still admire her. She knows about my abusive family/past. She is such a sweet, Christian woman and I love her dearly. When you actually see how you should have been treated and weren't it really hurts.