The world needs to know that miscarriage changes a woman forever. Once you've suffered a miscarriage you life will never be the same. Everyone wants you to get back to your "old self." It's not gonna happen. It changes the way you look at life. It changes the way you interract with your loved ones. It affects the relationship with your partner. It can affect your self esteem, your confidence, your sense of well-being. It makes you feel vunerable and sometimes, just down right unstable. A life was lost and, it needs to be aknowledged. The loss of an unborn baby deserves the same mouring and grieving period allowed for any other loss. This was not just some tissue or just an immature fetus, this was a thriving young human being. A human being who got cheated out of it's life. The world needs to know that we as parents got cheated as well. We never had the chance to hear our babies cry, see them smile,or see their first steps. The world needs to know that our hearts break when people don't understand why we are in so much pain, when our grief is not aknowledged, our grief is very real. I would like the world to stop discounting my grief. Stop minimizing my feelings, even though the world had not yet been introduced to my babies, my babies were very real and alive to me.
