I agree that the photo of the baby on this sight is hurtful and unappropriate. The moderator needs to take it off. I have had 3 miscarriages. They were each different as they say every pregnancy is different. But all hurtful.. mentally, physically & spiritually. What the world needs to know about miscarriage has already been said by several woman, but I will reiterate the point. If you know someone who has had a miscarriage either say nothing (best option) or simply 'sorry' (second best option) anything out side of these two options becomes mentally painful and challenging on how to respond. Once you have a miscarriage you can't go back to being the nieve, happy pregnant women. You now become guarded, cautious, angry that you know too much, angry that you're doctors know too little and somewhat paranoid...looking for signs that your current pregnancy will end and trying to 'fix' the problem so you won't miscarry again. The world is calus. Not only are the comments from people hurtful but what I found even more irritating (& tried to avoid by not telling anyone of my pregnancies) was the look of pity. And the last thing the world needs to know about miscarriages is if you've recently had one...Don't for any reason show, talk about friends, sisters, your own children. It comes off hurtful and condescending. I had a co-worker (the only person I told I was pregnant) and she & I were planning a baby shower for another co-worker. On the week of the baby shower I had a miscarriage. I would get physically sick thinking of having to be in the same room w/ someone oohing & ahwing over little baby outfits. So I told the women who was throwing the party with me that would she mind if I didn't go...her response still floors me too this day. She said it was only a miscarriage why don't you want to come. This hits home w/ if you haven't gone through a miscarriage you just don't know the depth of pain it can cause.
