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With 10 me too, I think this woman got into motherhood without thinking about it. I think she needs to get out of her funk and rediscover what it is to be alive. You can do that being a Mom, it just takes more effort and planning. I very much envy my childless neighbors. I see them strolling arm in arm at twilight, laughing. They are professionals, and interesting, and always seem happy - genuinely happy, not pretend happy that I have to be. I love my kids more than anything but I am not truly happy. I have no individual identity or interests, because I am a mom. So I have a daughter, who will grow up to have no identity and interests, because she will be a mom, and then her daughter, and so on, and so on. Why is it that it is only socially acceptable for children and men to have their own dreams and freedom?
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Gecko
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Here are some new ones: 1. This is one of my top three reasons for not having a kid...if it turns out rotten in spite of your best parenting efforts: "My teenage son is a horrible, vicious wreck of a person. He thinks because he is "not on drugs" that he can do and say whatever he wants. He is awful to me and our other child and makes us all miserable. I don't think it's a phase...I think he is truly a jerk. And I brought him into this world." 2. Ahhh! This would be about my 4th or 5th reason not to have a kid: "Husband Why can't you participate when you get home? Get off the computer, stop checking your 'news' and play with your daughter!! Get off your [censored] and do something. I'm tired of being second fiddle to the PC. I don't care that you don't get to check your news and personal email at work. You don't talk to your daughter before she goes to school and you think she needs to 'learn to play by herself' in the evenings. I work too and I can play with her. I take her to school, I pick her up, I take her to the library, I get her in the tub and I play with her. All she wanted was to build a pillow fort with you. And you wonder why she only wants me to put her to bed and hang out." 3. This one was just funny: "My cat thinks we bought the baby's bouncy chair for him. He won't get out of it!"
"Men and women think that it is necessary to have children. It is not. It is their animal nature and social custom, rather than reason, which makes them believe that this is a necessity." --Democritus
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10.23.07 6:11a
I didn't party before I got pregnant, so I didn't think my life would change much. But it still has! I don't get to go on dates with my husband as frequently (once a month, if we're lucky). I don't get to spontaneously hang out with people any more. My baby's bedtime is 6:30pm, so I wind up trapped in the house after that time. And now I stay at home with the baby, so we're broke and can't even afford to do these things.
I watch my sister-in-law go out on dates with her husband, hang out with our friends, go camping, etc. I'm jealous of her! But she's been trying to get pregnant for five years now, and I know she's jealous of me. Sometimes I think it would be great if I could just give my baby to her, then we could both be happy.
10.22.07 9:51p
my terrible confession is i don't like being a mother. if i could turn back the clock, i would choose not to have had my children. And i'm terrified of years more of this, trying to hide this feeling, and i'm stricken at the thought of my children feeling this from me and what it will do to them, if i do not hide it well enough.
10.22.07 3:07p
It makes me mad when other mothers are surprised that having kids is hard. I think too many women focus on the pregnancy and having a "baby" and forget that they are having a child that they will be responsible for everyday.
10.22.07 2:28p
My friend can't have kids and she keeps trying. I want to tell her that she isn't missing a damn thing. She doesn't realize how good she's got it.
I leave the child-rearing to people who feel called to it. I've never felt that call.
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11.10.07 4:45a
Often my adventures in motherhood feel like I am a prisoner of war. I am often denied food, drink, bathroom and shower privileges and the worst I am tortured at all hours with disjointed sleep. I love them truly and deeply but can I please sleep past 3 am this week?
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"On a side note- I had a horrible nightmare the other night about giving birth to a baby. I know it might sound weird, but it scared the [censored] out of me. I woke up sweating, disoriented and completely freaked out. That just confirms for me that if I were to go down this road I would end up with a never ending list of regrets and life is just too fun right now for that! "
-me too
Last edited by swee'pea; 11/10/07 06:53 PM.
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11.30.07 7:28a I don't want this baby. I'm having it because it's what will make everyone else happy. I fear it will be the end of my freedom and that I'll resent it.
Amber
"The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others." Sonya Friedman
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"I don't want this baby. I'm having it because it's what will make everyone else happy. I fear it will be the end of my freedom and that I'll resent it. Oh, thank goodness for people like her. How unselfish of her to bulldoze her own happiness and create a life so that everyone else will be happy. Perhaps I should console her by reminding her of all the Kodak moments she'll have, how different she'll feel since she's having her own baby, and that she's guaranteed care in her old age by the same child. (And under the N...32!) I almost forgot -- that it's only right to bring this baby in the world since she was once a baby, too! *projectile vomit*
Last edited by Angela P; 11/30/07 04:50 PM.
"Men and women think that it is necessary to have children. It is not. It is their animal nature and social custom, rather than reason, which makes them believe that this is a necessity." --Democritus
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I'm sorry you feel that way, Angela. Don't you think it would be neat to have someone who looks JUST LIKE YOU? It will be different when it's yours. :-)
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Don't you think it would be neat to have someone who looks JUST LIKE YOU? Yeah, but only so I could dress us both up in do-rags and re-choreograph the Dr. Evil/Mini-Me prison dance. 
"Men and women think that it is necessary to have children. It is not. It is their animal nature and social custom, rather than reason, which makes them believe that this is a necessity." --Democritus
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This one was just too good not to include -- how FUNNY! 11.30.07 9:50a "My 2 1/2 year old will NOT toilet train. She acts as though there are butt chomping sharks in the bowl. I'm losing my mind here. USE THE POTTY ALREADY!!!!!"
"Men and women think that it is necessary to have children. It is not. It is their animal nature and social custom, rather than reason, which makes them believe that this is a necessity." --Democritus
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