Talk about destruction!!
Your husband is without a doubt an enabler!! He isn't helping his son, he is making it too easy for him not to grow up and actually hurting him in the long run. I am sure he means well in his actions but it's the long term than concerns me. I am sure he is a good man- but sometimes good intentions can be destructive.
Having "pool night" well that is a good thing for them to get together, spend that needed quality time, bond and have fun BUT
When Dad needs to find you a girlfriend, drop everything to help you with a resume, do the taxes - Well then there is a SERIOUS issue with your husband letting go and making him grow up!!
So when the time comes and your husband passes on, does he plan on having a live in to continue the coddling in his stead? He is old enough now to be on his own and to be independent! he knows dad will always be there so why bother to make the effort when he has a safety net?
Last edited by Dragoncharmer; 10/28/09 10:50 PM.
