BellaOnline Forums Family Step Parenting 28 year old stepson - like a puppet on a string

Thanks so much. I had 3 issues that have been eating away at me for the past few years and I think you have resolved them. Based on your previous comments to me in another thread I had my stepson over for supper. All went well and the tension has eased between us. I think you are right on. I think that once he gets a girlfriend he will talk to his girlfriend about all his troubles, which is what couples do. She will have input into what he wears, where he lives and dad's opinion will not matter as much. I just had never looked at it that way. You're also right in that there should have been more emphasis put on his bonding with me. Because he has talked to me in monosyllables most of life (and because I let him) we are really strangers in some ways. We know about each other but don't really know each other. I think what I will do is invite him over to play cards or something like that. Perhaps when he gets a girlfriend he can bring her over. I am very happy. A weight has been lifted from my shoulders. Thanks so much. You are great!