Diana,
Just read your last post. Despite going to a counselor, it doesnt sound like your husband is receptive to working together to save your marriage.
Let me explain.
My ex wanted to save our marriage...that is if I would think the way he wanted me to think, discipline the kids his way, be his version of fiscally responsible, and clean the house the way he wanted it clean. That's not a marriage. That's servitude. Understand...I would have done anything to save my marriage...but no matter how I changed, it would never have been enough. His happiness would last until he found another way I needed to change. Our marriage counselor (faith based) told me to run.
You have to be true to yourself. The fact that he disrespects your wishes in front of his son is a frightening sign that he does not respect you.
One more thing, if you can bear it,:), getting a divorce does not mean you are giving up what you believe in. Staying in an emotionally abusive marriage is wrong for you and your children, and belive it or not, for him. Ask yourself how you would counsel your child if he/she was in this situation. Be true to yourself. Give yourself permission to love yourself.
Be well sweetie, and know that there are people out there who want to help.
