Andy and Duane_Va,

Andy:
Thank you for your kind and thoughtful reply. Your recommendations make sense to me. It makes sense to ensure I am being completely honest with myself, and that we are being completely honest with each other. I can express what I want, don't want, am willing / not willing to do, and then ensure that I know how she feels about all of that. From there, we can make a solid decision together.

Duane_Va:
I really like your suggestion of the pro's/con's list--generated both by me and by my wife. That sounds like a great way to objectively put all of our views out in front of us where we can both see them.

Thank you both!
Confused_Husband