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Re: Know anyone with a perfect, easy marriage? [Re: Lori-Dreams] #887281 03/01/15 06:33 AM
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I think that adapting to changing circumstances and issues is key, and to be sure we have our own hobbies to retreat into during stressful times. For me it is either reading, writing, or meditating.

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Re: Know anyone with a perfect, easy marriage? [Re: Lori-Dreams] #887283 03/01/15 06:38 AM
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Nothing is perfect in this world. Its not me, neither is my husband or anyone else for the matter. Perfection exists only in heaven.

I don't aim to preach but..... Don't try for perfection, instead be happy and look for satisfaction. (WOW, I like this sentence laugh )


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Re: Know anyone with a perfect, easy marriage? [Re: Lori-Dreams] #887440 03/01/15 04:29 PM
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You're all so right and have valuable points for us to consider. I especially love your last sentence, too, Anu: "Don't try for perfection, instead be happy and look for satisfaction."

What is perfection anyway? Everyone has his or her own idea of a perfect marriage. There is perfection in imperfection.

Re: Know anyone with a perfect, easy marriage? [Re: Lori - Marriage] #887527 03/01/15 06:52 PM
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There can be no perfect marriage between two imperfect people. We are human and there is nothing we can do to change that. Inevitably we will make mistakes along the way.

I know a few couples who have been married for many years and they seem very happy with a strong bond. But they will say that there have been ups and downs, and each person will sometimes go off the rails a bit. The key is patience and acceptance, love and compassion, support and a lot of hard work. It is what it is. You will get out of it what you put into it, provided both people are committed to the marriage's survival.

Perfect? Easy? Never. But peace and happiness within a marriage can be achieved even with the challenges that life will dish out.


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Re: Know anyone with a perfect, easy marriage? [Re: Susan Helene Kramer] #899226 09/08/15 10:15 PM
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Originally Posted By Susan - Meditation Editor
I think that adapting to changing circumstances and issues is key...


Indeed it is! The biggest change of circumstances for me and my wife of 48 years, and the biggest threat to our marriage, was her insistence forty years ago to have a child. As I confessed in my blog ("A young man's car", in the Archives of September 2013): where two had been company, three was a crowd.

However, when the time came for one of us to give up work and become the parent of first resort, it was I who chose to do it. I did it for five years, beginning around the time of our son's sixth birthday ("On being a house-husband", October 2013). We bonded fabulously well, and we have been closer than he and his mother, ever since.

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It's not possible for a marriage to be easy. The key is talking to each other honestly and never embarrassing your spouse in public. I feel blessed to have been married to my husband for twenty-seven years.


"....and in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make." - John Lennon
Re: Know anyone with a perfect, easy marriage? [Re: Lori-Dreams] #899790 09/18/15 12:45 PM
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My marriage is not always perfect but it is becoming more solid as we have both relaxed a little bit.

Tip: Some things (like certain perceived bad habits) are just not that important to give any attention to.


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Re: Know anyone with a perfect, easy marriage? [Re: Lori-Dreams] #899801 09/18/15 02:51 PM
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I don't think anyone has a perfect marriage. Personalities are different. Even though 2 people may agree on a lot of things, there is always going to be room for a heated debate somewhere down the road.

Maybe some people have an easy marriage, in the respect of not having to worry about money.

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My parents have been married over 63 years. It's not always easy, but they've managed. It's a wonderful site to see. My mom is very outgoing and ornery, my dad more introverted and sedate. It's a very interesting combination.

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