Actually there perhaps is a third type, they are not making sense out of the incomplete data set, nor do they *need* closure. They are just okay with leaving things open ended. They donâ€™t mind living with ambiguity.
*I* am the type who needs closure, I need meaning, I need things to make sense which is why getting older is such a wonderful thing for me.
Erica Jong once wrote that life is best understood backwards. Now that I have 20 years experience as an adult, I can look back and say â€œOh, thatâ€™s why I did such and suchâ€¦or oh thatâ€™s why that happened..NOW I understandâ€¦oh thatâ€™s how life works etcâ€¦if you do this, that usually happens. Ohhhhhâ€¦I get itâ€¦.â€œ
Even if it was bone headed stuff I did or â€œbadâ€ things that happened, at least I understand them nowâ€¦and I can finally have some closure in many areas of my life. I have answers to questions that plagued me for two decades.
But I had to live long enough to get to this point.