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Phyllis, that about says it and I'm so very happy you found that portal...it's not an easy one to find, especially if you happen to be a healer.

You can keep helping to the point where your body just starts giving away and like you mention, well, lol, without a pan, much less an able body, not much happin' but a "gluey-glob."

On a separate note, however, there's the issue of the person or people your heart/Soul SO MUCH wants to help...well, they keep doing the things they do for a reason and you (figurative) can easily become the drug or enabler that keeps on keeping them on.

((Hugsz Dear One))

Lori or should I just address you as Budda, lol

Thank you for adding your time and effort and such a great appendage...if that's the right word, lol. But not in the negative sense ((hugz).

You're absolutely correct!!! It's not a thing that's easily done or corrected and IF done w/baggage or internal anger, resentment "damage" well...

As the "disconnecting" (if you will) of the "chorded-bond" disintegrates, pulls away, etc. Well, it's gonna hurt...probably be pretty painful.

So for a time, there may be some of that while healing the absense of that "Chord."

Resentment? Well I recently saw something that was DEAD-ON! "If you've resentment or seek revenge (Paraphrasing...sorry) You might as well dig 2 graves"

Resentment, retaliation, anger, that's is the TRUTH /integration behind the mind/body/Spirit-God-Creator connection when things aren't quite going so well or having repetitive cycles you'd rather not have in your life..

((Hugz Dear One)

"If you've resentment or seek revenge, you might as well dig 2 graves"

Wow, that is a great quote!

Thanks for the hugs! I needed that! {{hugz to you!}}

This is my first post! I want to thank everyone for their helpful information on this subject. Especially the insightful words regarding souls having a mission to learn as they return as a toxic individual. I used to constantly find myself taking care of toxic people or enabling them in some way. Once you learn your own weaknesses and gifts you can stop and say "what am I doing and why am I doing this?". I came from an abusive home and have had so many life events....but I am also so incredibly blessed and god has a purpose for me. I actually died in 2009 and since then my outlook has completely changed. I am not willing to accept the status quo anymore. THANK YOU ladies for your insight. Kate

Welcome back, Kate! I'm very interested in NDE (near death experiences) so if you would like to, please share!

How has your outlook changed?

This has been playing over and over in my head LORi, this song...maybe you'll get someting form it?:

Personally, right now, my splinters or pieces, well...finally made that decision do this thing. It Seems time sensitive and just got out of the hospital amd doing well. Probably had a lot to do w/it., lol.

It's like we're always given the choice you know? To either ignore the information we're givin' and sometimes through discomfort end up sucombing to give it or just the opposite because we/I don't want discomfort sit on the darn thing like a large rock bolster of constipation...maybe that was too discriptive???.

For one of those things with me, it's been embarrassing to crack-open, and share all of it all of it...everything... avoiding, taking care of other things, and I'm pretty certain what I end up doing may end up helping a whole lot of good for a whole lot of people ((hugs-like)) but through words (real ones).

It's a heck of a lot better than trying to sit on the darn thing and hatch it like a hard-boiled egg, lol.

It's an unleashed written piece, no article, not a novel, etc. just small pocket-book type deal. Haven't released it yet.

But for sensitives and individuals going through something such as yourself, myself/Soul at times, etc.. it'll help "sensitives" going through much the same matter.

((Hugz again sweetheart))

Feather In The Wind


Feather In The Wind

This is likely a typical answer, but remains true for me. ALWAYS listen to your guy - it saved my life (but that is a really long story about a doctor, his ego and not wanting to listen to me disagree with him). People are important, not things. If you have a passion in life you need to find some type of outlet for it. Life is too short. The higher being (whomever that is, as I believe we are all really praying to the same god throughout the world) does have a plan in the long run. The night I died I had lost two out of three triplets. The first two had died at about 5 months and only one survived. Unfortunately one did not leave my body until about 6.5 months...the grief was so hard. At 7 months my uterus had burst at home...I was alone and it was a blizzard (no drama here, it really was a blizzard in January)I lost lots of blood as there were no available ambulance in the area due to all the automobile accidents. I had asked my doctor two weeks before that if my uterus could burst from all the water weight I had, he said "that never happens, Possibly 1 in 10,000 woman". When I got to the hospital,I was shocked that there was a heartbeat. My doctor was there and was taking me into surgery when he told me he was going to have them give me a spinal block. I told him "No, I had problems with my two previous kids and spinal blocks, I want general anestheia". He continued to argue with me (as I bled) when the anesthesiologist came into the room I told him that I did NOT want a spinal block but wanted general anesthia. He listened. My OBGYN had also not listened to me when I told him that 30 lbs. of water weight was not normal (I could not move my fingers).....but that is beside the point. Angels were at work that night. During that first surgery my doctor cut my bladder completely in error. He had repaired the uterus and my surviving triplet was born at 32 weeks. THANK GOD or angels? I had insisted on General anesthia, I felt severe pain in the recovery room. I kept telling them that I was dying and to please help me. My doctor could not be found. I could hear the nurses saying "Nothing is coming out of the cathetor" and "Where is Dr. Taylor?" When he did arrive he told me to "calm down and that I just wasn't used to General Anesthia". OK - If you have ever had babies you KNOW your body and this was NOT my first pregnancy. I have a very high pain tolerance. He left me bleeding in recovery for two hours.....I bled to death. They had to give me 15 blood transfusions as they re-opened me to find the uterus had re-ruptured, ovaries that burst (they had cysts), Cervix hemorraged etc.... Needless to say I had a complete hysterectomy and was later told it took 5 doctors to save me and about 6 hours. I later had to have my bladder rebuilt (it will never be normal but I am soooo thankful to be off a cathetor and pee! I know that sounds crude but it is true! My [censored] rebuilt, two hand surgeries and a shoulder surgery from all the swelling. I have no pelvic floor (so things will fall out when I am 70 - LOL). I AM SO GRATEFUL. While I mourn the loss of my other two babies, my daughter Holly would NOT be alive had they lived. Also, I believe some power protected me that night. I was in ICU and on a ventilator for awhile but I was alive. When my uterus burst at home I laid just the right way on my right side (not knowing that the tear was at the umbilical cord and anything else would likely have been fatal to Holly). At the hospital my gut told me to argue about the spinal block as I was bleeding everywhere. Later a friend of mine that is a physician looked at my records and he said this: "While your doctor put you through a lot of unnecessary pain and made mistakes you were doomed from the start. I have never seen a case like your where the mother lived and the baby isn't brain dead". I will never forget those words!

omg, searching. What an experience. Yes, your strong intuition surely helped save your life--and your child's. I'm sorry for the loss of your other two babies.

I had a similar feeling that something was not right when I was in labor with my first son. After 18 hours of pushing, I was getting nowhere. The baby was stuck. I knew it but the doctor didn't want to do a c-section. As time went on, I felt like it was very serious. My mother came into the room and when I implored her to tell the doctor to do a c-section "because something is wrong, mom" she knew to listen to my intuition. She turned to the doctor and ordered him: "YOU TAKE THAT BABY OUT OF HER RIGHT NOW!" He turned on his heels and prepped for surgery. He discovered that my baby's head was too large to pass through my pelvic bones and both of us would have died if the c-section wasn't performed right away. As it was, I too bled profusely (uterus went soft and would not contract) and nearly died, too.

I have a question for you though. When you "died" do you recall any out of body experiences? I didn't have one at that time, but somehow I knew that I was standing at a crossroad between life and death. It was an odd feeling, actually.

Elleise, thank you for that. As for the Feather in the Wind, it is interesting that she is an LDS singer. And also, it reminded me of the last line in the movie, "Forrest Gump" because I wondered the same..."if we each have a destiny or if we all just floating around accidental-like on a breeze?"

As Forrest did, I have come to the same conclusion: "I think maybe it's both."

But you brought it up and it gave me the feeling that I am not fulfilling my destiny, my purpose. And perhaps now is the time.

Lori, I can so relate to your story. My first child was 10lbs. and was stuck in my pelvic bone after two days of labor. We then did the C-Section. NOT FUN! When I died I knew I was dying.....I don't know how, but I knew. I don't remember going anywhere though.....It was as if I was just asleep for a moment. Honestly I remembered everything going on around me and was still very angry at the doctor when I woke up on the ventilator a few days later. I ended up with PTSD from being awake through all of that and knowing I was dying and the doctor wouldn't listen. With PTSD you relive it over and over and over....which really doesn't help anything. I said the "Our Father" as I went into my first surgery and I remember thinking that this would be a life or death situation. Later I had a sensation that my Maternal Grandmother had protected me through the event....she died before I was born so I don't know why I felt that, but I did feel it.