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When a mistake is made both people in the relationship can be hurt.

When Mistakes Hurt Others

Please read my latest article on the Spirituality site. Feedback is always welcome!

Good advice for all of us. Debbie, what happens if after all that the person who hurt their loved one tries do to make amends, but the other person cannot forgive?

Thanks Debbie for the article, very well expressed!

It reminded, oh so well, of the following song/lyrics:

APOLOGIZE

In the fury of the moment
When the words of wrath rang out
When my mind was filled with questions
And my head was filled with doubt

I can still see sadness heartbreak
And the sorrow in your eyes
How can flowers live in darkness
How can I apologize

For the blackness I've created
In the world that used to shine
I have wilted all the roses
And I spoiled all the wine

Just get out your magic pencil
And erase the cloudy skies
Just draw a picture of me
Saying, I apologize

Give me back
The words I spoke in haste
Give em back
Or love will go to waste
Give em back

See the sunlight reappearing
Through the shrouds of darkened blue
As I hear the words forgiving
And watch the flowers bloom

And when time has lost that moment
And we mended broken ties
I will stay be on my knees
Saying, I apologize

Give me back
The words I spoke in haste
Give em back
Or love will go to waste
Give em back

AHHH! Beautiful People! What is a MISTAKE??? I am of the opinion that there are no "mistakes" -- meaning that it is all part of the beautiful voyage we call life! All experiences serve a purpose, however bizarre.

Les, kudos to you amigo for your lovely palabras.

Connie.....we can only be responsible for our own actions. If we have done all we can to make amends and the other person won't or can't forgive, then we have to walk away and give that person their space. It may hurt like the dickens, but we have to let go......let go of the relationship if there is no way to reconcile, and let go of the pain and the sadness. Life will go on. Maybe after a time that person will come back, and maybe not.

Les......thank you for reading my article and for sharing the lyrics of that song. It is very moving.

Anna.....thank you for sharing your opinion. Certainly everything that happens in life is an opportunity for learning.

I wrote the article because I know of a situation recently where people were hurt by actions and words. Believe me when I say that there was nothing beautiful about it, and nothing beautiful may come of it. Even though there was never an intention to hurt anyone, the relationships are most likely permanently damaged, which is a real shame. I have to call what took place as being mistakes, and all involved in the situation agree.

I really like title of your article. Wonderfully written by you. Les-Mexico, Thanks for sharing this wonderful song. I also have a song APOLOGIZE: I'm holding on a rope Got me 10 feet off the ground I'm hearin' what you say but I just can't make a sound You tell me that you need me then you go and cut me down But wait You tell me that you're sorry didn't think I'd turn around and say: That it's too late to apologize Too late Said it's too late to apologize Too late I'd take another chance, take a fall, take a shot for you I need you like a heart needs a beat, it's nothing new Yeah I loved you with a fire red now it's turning blue And you say Sorry lord, the angel heaven let me think was you But I'm afraid It's too late to apologize Too late Said it's too late to apologize Too late I'm holding on a rope Got me 10 feet off the ground !!!!!!

Thanks Jennie, for reading my article and for sharing the song with us.

I bet there are more songs than we could ever count out there about making mistakes, getting hurt, being sorry, and apologizing.

My pleasure Debbie. Yes of course, there are many songs about being sorry and apologizing.