wow, catluvgal, have just read your post, and I identify with everything you've said. It kind of took me aback !
My hubby does the cooking ( it's easier than him moaning that he doesn't want what I would eat - mmm steamed veg and grilled fish ) although he does do nice food, he too has to have us eating a 'proper meal' every day, hence I am now 11 stone instead of my usual 9 1/2. he too is very needy, and wants to do most things together, etc.
AND I too miss the dating thing - although for me it's nearly 18 yrs ago. we were out the other day, and I saw a really handsome bloke, and wondered how my life would have been if I hadn't stayed married so long. I too miss my male friends ( we now live in greece, so don't get to see them much ) although some come out to see us with their wives. they ring to chat a few times a year, and as my hubby normally says . he's YOUR friend , not mine )
It's true some days are not so good, but if at the heart of it you love your husband, then I don't think you can expect any more. I've long come to the conclusion life is far from perfect, and if you are reasonably happy a lot of the time, then that should be cause for huge celebration - especially knowing how many people are incredibly unhappy most of the time...:( A sad state of affairs ? no. just life .
I enjoy many things about being married. but it does have it's downfalls. And I know if we'd had kids I would be divorced, because our ideas on raising kids are poles apart. - it's bad enough with the cat !
So I won't give the 'why not try this', or 'do that' speech, and will just nod my head and say, - Yes girl, I hear ya. x
Last edited by Gaynor8002; 12/15/11 03:40 AM.