I feel your pain Molly and I am so sorry to hear this. My husband is Navy. We have only been married for a year and a couple months but he was deployed for 6 of those and gone on underways for a good 2 months of those as well. We got pregnant right away when we started ttc and found out when I was only 4 1/2 weeks along. We were so excited and told EVERYONE immediately. We have since decided that was a bad idea. I had a missed miscarriage Friday and found out the baby had died when I was 7 weeks and 1 day. I had a D and C on Monday.
I want you to know you are not alone. I feel absolutely horrible for you that you didn't get the time you needed to grieve. That isn't fair. All I can say now is to take the time you need. You NEED to grieve. The only way to manage your emotions is by letting them out. I am still grieving the loss and my dr told me it is completely normal and right to grieve.
The thing we don't have the "Uncle Jim" had when he died was a funeral where all the family got together to talk about the memories and comfort eachother. I know you must feel alone in this because trust me, I do too. I feel empty and I feel like nothing is going to make me feel better. I break down at least once a day and it has been almost a week since we found out.
Just take it one day at a time sweety. If you need someone to talk to that can wholely relate, please feel free to email me at [censored]. You can also find me on facebook with that email address. In the meantime, I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Last edited by Jeanne Egbosiuba Ukwendu; 09/12/11 07:27 PM.