BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids My pregnant sister unfriended me on FB...

Wow. Your sister sound really high strung, maybe a chill pill is in order?

Though there again, I haven't been without my won drama on facebook, so I understand. Try not to pay her much mind, she'll come around someday and when she does, you can decide what to do

Though I'm happy you gave the link to that article great read, so early in the morning =)

It's painful to have your family treat you that way. God knows I've been on the receiving end of that more times than I would like to remember, write about, or ever talk about.

Why give it so much importance. Clearly you've accomplished great things all on your own and if you are truly happy in your life then all this should not really matter.

Getting caught up in all this drama is pointless and harmful to your happiness and well being. Forgive, forget, and just do what brings happiness into our life.

You are awesome and you are above all this and when you just accept that others will never change and that they can either accept you for who you are or not then other people's actions cease to have a detrimental effect on you.

"Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of someone else." � Judy Garland

"Trying to get everyone to like you is a sign of mediocrity." � Colin Powell

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Dolyn, that all sounds incredibly immature on your sister's part :-( Unfortunately Facebook is open to anyone and doesn't come with a "don't enter if you are overly emotional, irrational or far too sensitive" THOSE people seem unable to leave it alone! Why are they drawn to something that hurts them so much.

My man's sister is constantly checking my comments on Childfree group pages, even though she knows she won't like my opinion on various issues to do with children, child benefits etc. I don't check out any pages she posts on, I barely even look at her own profile page! She seems to want to get herself riled up at my opinion, which is so pathetic, it's just MY opinion. I'm entitled to my opinion, I will give my opinion on matters that interest me, but it's not a law, it doesn't mean I hate someone, and I am incredibly happy for people to disagree with me or point out a flaw in my thinking (in fact I like it because I learn more from it).

Mindy, are you guys identical? I'm an identical twin and I couldn't bear to go through what you are going through. I haven't yet had to deal with my twin getting pregnant, and I may never have to, I don't know. It's a tough one. She isn't remotely vocal about NOT wanting children. She babysits for loads of people and is great with kids (but then I've done all that too), but equally you never ever hear her talking about when she has children. Strangely I don't feel the desire to come right out and ask her if she wants kids, maybe because I don't want to know her answer. It would be very weird having a kid that was biologically mine while not wanting kids myself, and I am well aware that the whole DNA thing will probably kick in. Then again my older sister adopted, my nieces are 3 of the best things to ever happen in my life, and (just like my parents) my sister and brother in law are fantastic (but very firm) loving parents and they do not expect everyone else's life to revolve around their children, they totally get that they are THEIR children! My twin would be the same really as we are all very levelheaded, sensible, rational individuals. Still, scary thought having a child that is mine but isn't mine :-S

Yes, my husband accepted my friend request. The next time he un-friends me, I won't send him another one...and I won't accept one from him. If having the illusion of being perfect is more important than being connected to me via a social network, then SO BE IT. And, it's not a big deal. Often, FB just amplifies flaws...beliefs and views that would irritate you regardless of whether you were conversing in real life, or on the computer. For example, I had to hide my sister-in-law's posts. They're all about the baby, and I don't really care. Then, I post an article about the Child-free, and of course, she can't resist getting nasty...so, I denied her from commenting on my posts. I think she's blocked me...last time I checked, I wasn't able to view her wall (about 2 months ago? IDK. I don't really care). We get along okay in real life - but if she EVER had said out loud, IRL, to me what she typed on FB, I would never speak to her again. I do understand that even though it is a social network, since it's the internet, there is a modicum of perceived (i.e. false) anonymity. People tend to say what's on their minds, and the natural censor that we have IRL doesn't kick in. I understand that some people just have a bad day, or are bored, and want to start a discussion or argument, or create drama. They have nothing better to do. But I DO. See ya - wouldn't wanna be ya! :P If it wasn't for my dad, and my awesome family and friends on there, I would delete my account in half a heartbeat.

Speaking of facebook.....Not to offend stay at home mothers but I notice that they seem to be busy picking up after the kids. I understand that someone needs to be the primary care taker and that it will never be 50/50 but to me just picking up after the kids all day is busy work and not actually accomplishing anything. I mean that they essentially create their own problem and then are busy for the next 20 years cleaning up after it but what have they really done with their lives? To me, it's like dumping the garbage on the lawn and then picking it up all day and of course you would be exhausted but it's not actually doing anything. I don't have the urge to have kids at this point so I don't understand working 24/7, with no benefits, with no pay, and no sleeping in etc. It's not my kind of hobby. Does anyone else notice or share the same views? I don't mean to be offensive.

I totally agree aw21! You hit the nail right on the head. Most of the time these stay at home parents say that their job is incredibly important, as it is "raising the next generation". Well, I was raised with both parents working full time and I'm still a contributing member of society! Loved your comment about it not being your kind of hobby! lol! I second that wholeheartedly.

I think facebook makes people much more honest than they would attempt to be in real life. If they say it on facebook it's obviously their just too chicken to say it to your face. I hate facebook in the fact, that, that's what it takes for some people to be honest about themselves.

If you don't like someone, instead of pretending to eb their friend just tell them to screw off. NO need to grin and bear it, it's hardly worth it in the end.

If people were half as honest in real life, as they were through facebook, how easier it'd be to know who is your friends and who isn't. I make a habit to not say anything online that I wouldn't say to someones face, only becuase I think more honesty is needed in the world.