BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids My pregnant sister unfriended me on FB...

So, I guess my sister's crazy pregnancy hormones have gotten the best of her, and she's taken it upon herself to Facebook ostracize me. ::rolls eyes:: I believe it's due to her reaction to this article I posted about having kids from Time magazine:

Kid Crazy: Why We Exaggerate the Joys of Parenthood

Her comment to my post was, "Now you see why I don't consider you part of my support system." ... and that was it before my husband informed me I've been unfriended (I hadn't even noticed myself). Frankly, I'm not even sure I care. I'm kind of tired of all her [censored].

Now, truthfully, my sister and I have been having some other problems lately. We got into a knock-down drag out, yelling match around Christmas because she didn't like something I said and decided her response would be to throw a cup of coke in my face. We "made-up" I guess, but I haven't really forgiven her. Growing up, she's always had the more domineering persona (3 years older than me). Looking back, I'm not sure how she managed it, but she seemed to convince everyone (including myself) that she was somehow better than me. In fact, I recall the day my father told me he was willing to pay for her to go to an out of state school, but not me because she "has more potential." It wasn't until I went off to college that I was able to step out of her shadow. Also, I credit my husband with giving me tons of support and the added confidence to continue my education, always reminding me that I AM really smart (I developed a bit of an inferiority complex over the years. Gee, I wonder why?)

So, here we are today. I think she's upset because her life isn't turning out exactly as she wanted it, and to twist the knife a little deeper "little Dee" has everything she thought she'd have: loving husband who will do anything for her, nice home, financially stable, career with further prospects, etc... What she doesn't understand is that I've worked for everything I have. It wasn't handed to me. Maybe I did luck out on the "finding the love of my life at age 19" thing, but we all know that marriage isn't just a state of being. It requires work too.

As far as the "support system" goes, maybe she should consider that if someone needs a "support system" to make it through a pregnancy and raising a kid (especially when you HAVE a husband), a Times article your sister posts on Facebook is the LEAST of your problems.

Sorry to rant. Stupid family drama.

- D.

Wow! This sounds very familiar. My twin (yes, I said twin) sister was always more in the limelight and always had better grades and all in school. It wasn't until late college when I really started to feel like my own person. I started dating my husband when I was 19 and we have been married for 2 & 1/2 years now. On our wedding day - she threw a hissy and I was in tears the entire morning. My mom, sister and I argued and it was completely horrible. Truthfully, I think she was upset because she wasn't getting most of the attention for once -even thought she gave some completely stupid excuse. She has yet to apologize to my face. My mother apologized for her. My sister already has a 16 month old son & is almost 4 months pregnant right now. We do have a better relationship - but again, she has been in the spot light more. She sees my Mom and talks to her jest about every day - because of having kids. I see my Mom once every few weeks & all my Mom can talk about babies & ask when I am having one. I totally empathize with your situation though and I'm sorry she is being like that to you! Perhaps you two can discuss this situation (when the timing is right). She has to realize that you are your own person & she can't dictate what you can/cannot post on FB.

I've noticed a lot of desensitizing w/this FB stuff. Just petty yet devestating comments and actually breaking up, cheating, unfriending and wars to see who can get the most support of a personal situation. It isn't really support, more than a ,"HA, told you I was right!"

The attention span of the average FB person is all of about 10 sec. So if you have 1000's of supporters, I wouldn't bank on those people to be there in the long run. they're primarily bored or restless and want something distracting to do.

Having children will never guarantee your life will turn out the way you thought, in fact, now that there's a whole nother human being in the picture, you can count on your life having even more variables.

The coke in the face thing is a little raw and it's a little wierd to think of that as a mother to be. Not a whole lot of thinking or room for other people's opinions or even patience in that act, all of which are key ingredients in being as well adjusted parent as you can be.

Wow! I am so sorry your sister is being like that. I wonder if she will un-friend her child or throw coke in its face once its born. ;-) On the bright side, at least you don't have to worry about her trying to dump her baby on you.

Is this an adult we're speaking of? I can't believe that a parent would show that kind of partiality regarding a college education...I guess if you struggled in school I understand, but he should have worded it differently. Anyway, your sister sounds like she may have some trouble raising a child being that she seems to still be behaving like one. By the way I can't wait to read that article!

Chill! Nothing to worry, its just facebook, kind of virtual world.

It comes back to the old saying - you can pick your friends but not your family.
Your sister sounds very selfish - especially with the comment about YOU being HER support system. ( you obviously don't matter then....)

I agree with the above comments, don't stress it, as it sounds as though the world revolves around her ( my older sis is the same, and we very rarely talk for no other reason that I don't figure large in her life,)
and it's definately a plus when it comes to the birth, she won't try to have you running around after her.

It's obvious she's feeling sorry for herself that you're not bending over backwards for her, and true to form with these selfish people, wants to make you feel bad too.
well, good for you that you're not - although it always hurts when you 'fall out' with family.
Stick to your guns - she's obviously hoping you're going to run after her, all upset that she 'unfriended' you.....

I feel sorry for kids. I think they get a raw deal. They all grow up into adults with problems.

Ugh. FB drama - makes me want to flush my account. It's really the only way I can consistently stay in touch with my dad, a few awesome cousins, and several STELLAR friends. I had FB drama of my very own today - my own husband unfriended me on a whim, because I spell-checked a couple of his posts. Honestly, I believe that incorrect spelling eats at my mortal soul. I HAVE to correct it, and I do it to just about everyone, which everyone (up until now) laughs off, goes "oh, you, silly!", thanks me for correcting them...or even, in a few cases, blatantly ASKS me if it's spelled correctly. He realized his goof, and was embarrassed enough to blush when I asked him why he did it. He just did it...and didn't know how to undo it. OOPS! :D Still, it made me angry for a couple minutes. And he still has yet to accept my friend request, in which I added a personal message calling him a "butt-head". Maybe that's why....? :)

LOL Audrey has he accepted it yet?

I am the same, always correcting spelling or grammar errors. Comes from being an TESOL freak. My sons hate it but I cannot leave a spello if I see one.

FB is always full of drama, I have deactivated my account so many times.