Hi sunshine & welcome
I absolutely love meeting people who for what ever reason are inclined to look further into their gifts. Usually what I've found anyway is that anything from having an accident, stress, loss of some kind or odd coincedences are what prompts them.
The tests that are out there, honestly, the ones I've experimented with seem to be more for entertainment. Tests you can do at home for starters are more accurate and every living person already does, yes, have psychic abilities. They're just natural states we're ususally to distracted to utilize and not as dramatic as they show them on TV or in movies.
Test you can do at home are simple and ones you can do with a stack of cards or 5 cards of different suits. What you want to try an do is clear your mind and then try to see a picture in your mind of the card you are about to turn over. At first you'll want to experiment in your mind to see if you can just distinquish between red and black, then move on to shapes. Keep in mind that that area you will be working with is only one area of precognition.
Other types have to do with communication, events, telepathy, etc. You kind of sound like you have the strongest area working with communication and empathy, possibly? This is more of a medium but usually we have one strong area and other dormant areas or satellite areas that splinter off from the strongest one.
And, yes, absolutely, depression and anger, rebellion, etcd. can get in the way of abilities, even a negative partner.
How old were you when you first notice you had your abilitiy?