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Someone brought this term to my attention.

It's a facinating term, one I'd not heard of but they said there are two forms of cheating. One tinkers just on the edge.

What is your definition of "Emotional Cheating?"

I've heard of emotional cheating. It's when your spouse does not have physical relationship with another person, but yet they become very close - emotionally to someone else as if that person was their mate.

Exactly what Dianne described and in some ways more painful because that person is investing all their energy and emotions into somebody else. I've been on both sides of this and it's not good for your relationship.

For some reason, people don't feel it's cheating. I definitely think it is. Ms. m is right, it's more painful in some circumstances then the physical cheating to me.

I've just now heard of this and having done so, why isn't there a book about it?

It seems to reign on so many different levels!

There's the escape.

There's the "just before" whatever it is, usually, on the other end of the family, a person who "understands" you so much and "saves" you.

There's the leading up to something physical.

There is also the workaholic that can't find the same satisfaction being at home that they do emotionally at work.

Anyone? Best seller

I agree, it would be a great book. I think a lot of this is going on and the workplace is where a lot of it can start spending so much time with co-workers.

My sister says some call it office spouse or something like that. I heard it on a t.v. show too. I can't remember the term for it exactly when it happens at work.

Well, if it's o.k. I'd like to bare all and actually write this one.

I'm good with the uplifting and inspirational, but this one seems to have an edge.

From where I'm at, I can see things and feel, of course, lol, but I had literally never heard of this term and I am one of those people where, once I become facinated with something, it's a passion.

I have to share something too and maybe other women would relate. I didnt' go looking for this term, it came to me.

The person who told me of it said, "If my (partner) has to be away from our home or find someone else, my only request is that it's a prostitute." That's as good of a quote as I can get it.

My initial reaction was, BUG EYED, to be honest and it took me 30 seconds to get it.

I knew what she was going to say too.

At least if it's a prostitute, there's nothing there, he can still share intimate things with me. If it's just an urge, I can deal with that, because it's like a hit and then it's gone.

It kind of reminds me of emotinoal beating vs, physical. Hands down, I'd take the physical every time

Wow, what a terrible way to feel that way about your partner. I get it though and that is why so many guys get addicted to porn, topless bars, and yes hookers.

It's sad that couples feel they have to resort to this. Why not just fix it or walk away?

No kidding, really...

I stand by that!

If it bothers you, say something. If you don't and especially if there's routine, there's a good chance you and your partner are kind of going through motions of the everyday getting this or that done and God forbid, trying to obtain something better than just eeking by.

If you're going to involve other people, after awhile what you may end up having may be worse than what you had before?