According to her, I don't "choose" to be childfree, I'm just unable to care for children so I don't have them.
You said it so well Dolyn. I think most people think that about CF people, even though they don't say it. My family (incl husband) has never said it, but I suspect they think I decided to be CF because I can't take care of children, i.e. I'm too lazy and self-centered.
Well, I admit to not having the qualities that make (IMO) a successful parent. I can't stand noise or disorder and would totally go bonkers if I was tied down 24/7 to the responsibilities of a kid. However, there are a lot of people with those same characteristics who DO go on to have kids, to the detriment of their offspring. At least I was honest and took the best path for myself. I have no reason to cloak myself in the martyrdom these moos take on.
Ellavemia: There's a reason why people lost touch before the age of social networking. Life went on. we are all different people from high school and sometimes reconnecting is painful. My two best friends have changed so much they're like strangers and that hurts a bit. I might have rather not talked to them anymore if I had known this but through the magic of the internet we reconnected although things will never be as they were.
Awesome. That sort of caution needs to be posted to the Facebook FAQ.
I sort of wonder sometimes about a best friend from high school. We were soooo
tight; I've yet to have experienced such a friendship again, even with my mate. It was a warm, confiding, more-than-sisterly relationship. We supported one another through family issues, boyfriend catastrophes and change-of-life confusions. We were separated when she had to move away with her parents, yet kept in touch for several years after, all through college. Then she made a disastrous marriage, had a kid, and like a lot of women caught up in those pressures we lost touch.
I've thought about trying to track her down; she is still in the same area of the country; but it worries me to think of what I'd find. I heard through the grapevine that she married again and had another child; she's even a grandmother, now. I don't think we'd be able to meet on the same plane, as 50-year-old women, and have thought that it should be best left as fond memories.