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Only one reason? Hm. Tough one. I think for me it is the issue of choice. I can wake up tomorrow and teach a voice lesson, sing a wedding, go out to lunch with my mom, do nothing but hang out in my pj's, sleep late, or even (finally!) apply to go back to school to get my PhD. My life can look however I want it to look! Have a kid? Those choices vanish INSTANTLY.

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Money and independence. I'm thinking about going to med school in the future and it's enough to try to balance life without children. I would view them as a burden and that's the honest truth.


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Hi all, brand spanking new here! :D I guess i was definately an early articulator of my desire to be childfree.. But my main reasons now? Well, mental health, medical health.. and I really just dont want children! But if I had to choose one it would be my mental health. I find that when my hormones are out of whack I go cuckoo. And i like the way I am when I am not cuckoo. So, i sat down with my husband and said: You hve a choice. Have a wonderfully happy wife and life with me, childfree or you go in search of a woman who is willing to give you the family you wanted as I will not sactrifaice my mental health for a child. he chose me but I will forever be wary of that..

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For as long as I can remember I have never had any desire to have kids. None. Zip. Zilch. Spending the Christmas holiday with my husband's new nephew has just RE-AFFIRMED all of my beliefs in this department.

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Simple: Because I don't want to. The End.

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Well, here's my reasoning: I don't want my life to SUCK. hahaha!

Seriously,that lifestyle doesn't appeal to me.

Just as I knew I wanted to be a freelance worker rather than wear a business suit to work. I would rather give my time and love to my husband and family members.

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Originally Posted By: 4Ferrets
Mine is probably the fact that the 'thought' of raising a child makes be want to run away screaming! :-)

Seriously though, I'm a preson who really needs my quiet time and I know that trying to deal with the stress and chaos that goes with parenting would simply make me absolutely miserable and resentful.


I think many of us share this trait. I myself am very pro quiet time as well!

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On the surface, I would say that the reason is because of my health - physical and mental. I never feel well physically, and this affects my mental state, in addition to the depression that runs in my family. It may seem selfish, but in order to manage the depression, it requires a lot of self-attention and rest, which works wonders for me. Stresses and curveballs completely throw me out of whack and turn me into an abominable drag. Choosing to be stressed out all of the time is not a good choice for me. Being a parent, as I have heard many, many times from parents, is stressful and full of curveballs. People have tried to tell me (and I have considered myself) that having a child will give me purpose and put my mind on another human being instead of myself, implying that my childfree existence is self-centered and unhealthy, and that my mental and physical health is due to this selfishness. But, I saw my mother (who has major depression) suffer horribly with us kids to the point of becoming suicidal, so I know that's not true. I think it's a sound and respectable decision to look at the big picture and realize that what's good for one person may not be good for another - for their life or for the world - despite the fact that friends will tell me that my husband and I would make great parents. Personally, I think the reason we would make great parents is the very reason why we're not parents. That being said, if I really WANTED a child, I would make it work somehow. Ultimately, the real reason is that I LOVE my freedom.

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My reasons are like everyone elses.....I have no desire to be maternal, I like my peace and quiet, and I can be a very stressed out person so I know that having children would push me over the edge. For my own sanity I won't take on that responsibility, and I do enjoy the freedom and quiet time I have right now. And at almost 43 yrs old, I am just too OLD for starting that process!


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The lack of independence and freedom. I can deal with any other responsibility necessary but the idea of having a child with never-ending needs and whining and no end in sight would be worse than a prison sentence for me. Not to mention the whole pregnancy and childbirth thing - I honestly don't understand how I could love something that put me through that.

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