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Oopps...wasn't finished gabbing. My poor dog. I quicked him last night trimming his nails and he was still bleeding this morning, but by the time I got to the vet we decided it didn't need cauterizing. He has had this rash on his belly and under his front legs and usually I file his nails after I trim them so they won't be sharp and he just shredded his underside with his nails and the vet ended up giving him an allergy shot. So I have been busy doing laundry and cleaning up the mess from last night. He bled quite a bit in the night. Poor guy. He did have a nice visit though and loves to ride in the car.

Granny H, I'm sorry about everything you're going through with your grandson. There is a forum called Autism Spectrum Disorders:

Autisum Forum

They can help with questions/concerns regarding autism.

On a light note, as I was reading your post, I was happy to see you guys had a great time with family! But, I thought your post said that you made breakfast for 40! I went back and saw that it was breakfast reservations for 40, lol!

And Connie, I'm sorry about Morty!

Have you seen the commercial for the nail clipper for dogs? It looked ok, and they "say" it prevents nicks. I haven't used it, though.

My problem is that my dog does NOT sit still, so we have given up, and let the vet's office take care of it.

Brandii, he is pretty cooperative about having his nails trimmied. I have thought about that pedipaw, but didn't know how he would take that.

His rash is a lot better, but the side effect from the steriod is thirst and he is drinking water like there is no tommorow and has had several accidents in the house. Let me tell you, 130 lbs of dog can make a big oops in your floor! Poor guy, you can tell it upsets him when it happens. He has gotten me up in the night the past few nights to go out too. I will be glad when things are back to normal with him.

I did go to the dr and he put me on an anti anxiety and already I can tell it has helped. Next week we have the meeting with mom and everyone and then the week later the court date. We are expecting we will have our grandaughter for 6 more months or more.

Hi Connie!

I'm so happy that you saw your doctor and that the medication is making a difference!

We've talked before on this forum about the importance of reaching out and getting help when you need it, and I am so thankful that you were able to do that.

Wow--it sounds like the next few weeks are pretty significant. Does having another six months make it easier or harder on you and your husband? Do you feel like you're stuck in the middle, for lack of a better word?

On a dog note, I can only imagine the mess that 130 pounds of a dog (lovable and adorable one, of course) would make!

Does he provide some comic relief now and then? He is the cutest dog--I have LOVED your pictures of him, the house, and of course your precious granddaughter!

I'm just about to grab dinner, but will be back to post a photo of my crazy and wild dog (our number one source of comic relief).

Hey Brandii, well, we are not for sure how much longer she will be with us. It all depends on her mom and if she can do what she is supposed to do which pretty much now all she has to do is make visits with our grandaughter and get to know her.

Morty's rash is totally gone. Yesterday he didn't have an accident all day/night in the house. That sure was nice!

My younger daughter is supposed to be here on Monday and my older daughter is going with me to pick her up so I am looking forward to some family time. All my grandchildren but one will be here and it will be so nice!

I hope everyone has a nice 4th holiday. We are cooking out with our older daughter.

I did make an appointment with a concelor for the 14th and I am looking forward to that.

Also, on a more stess note, my son passed out at work yesterday and after thinking/discussing my husband and I think he is anorexic. So I will be a new poster in that forum.

Connie, Oh, I feel your concern. My maternal grandmother took custody of me at birth. Lots of abuse issues there and the bio mother was more interested in boy friend than her husband or her new baby. My bio mother was off living her life. After their divorce the bio father moved far away. I grew up calling my grandmother MOM. Looking back on it, not sure. She was the only Mom I ever had and I wouldn't change it for the world. She was my rock. However, over the years it did cause a great deal of problems whenever the bio mother would come around which wasn't very often, but it did cause problems. As she was more like an older sister to me than a mother. I knew she was my bio mother but it was just a fact. I called her by her given name from the time I was old enough to say her name. Over the years the bio mother had pretty much nothing to do with anything in our lives. And when Mom got sick with Alzheimers Disease, I tried to talk her (my bio mother) into talking with her mother before things got too bad. She didn't. She would stay away for long periods of time, even seven years, and they only lived 20 minutes from each other. Mom passed away in 2005 and to this day the bio mother refuses to talk to me, saying that I took her place with her own mother. And yes, the bio mother is very narcissitic. At the age of your granddaughter now, I'd say, she should call you grandma, nana, or something other than Mom. My prayers are with you. Just my opinion. Hugs.

Hi Connie!

I'm so sorry to hear about your son! Is he feeling any better now?

I am happy you have an appointment with a counselor. Good for you! With all that you have on your plate, I think it'll be so nice to have help in coping with everything.

How did your cookout go? I hope everyone had a nice time (and that you didn't get stuck with too much work, lol)

And hi OneTiredMom! Thank you for offering your point of view and perspective. Welcome to Bella Online and to the Adoption forum!

Brandii,

He is feeling much better. I just don't think he eats enough and I worry as he will be moving away for college in a month.

The cookout was great, and now my youngest daughter is here visiting for a couple of weeks with our newest grandbaby so my other daughter was here for supper tonight and we all had a really nice visit.

Connie, I am so glad you have been about to get together with your kids and grandkids this summer. Especially to meet that new one. I'll bet he's a real cutie and changing every day the way they do at that age. Is your college freshman son going far away to school? You never stop worrying about them, and they seem to never stop giving you reasons for more worry. Please tell us which day your court hearing is so I can spend the entire day sending you good thoughts.

You are right, Brandii, I did not cook breakfast for 40 people. I did however make 2 turkeys for our potluck meal. The result was just so-so. We have had this reunion every year for the past 25 years. It's a camping weekend, so we are not in confined spaces. Almost half of us came home with respiratory problems (myself and my husband included) so I've been just barely functioning. But the day care goes on. I was in the work force when my sons were this age. I never understand when mothers wanted summer to be over. Now I'm counting the days. And I don't have them every day.

Good thoughts for now. I'll check in again. GrannyH

Hey Granny, the meeting for the plan for the next 3-6 months is tomorrow. The hearing is the 17th and for sure I will be thankful for any/all prayers and good thoughts sent my way!

Today we went to see hubby's gramma (great-great gramma to these kids) and then we went and saw hubby's mom (great gramma to the kids). I took 4 grandchildren with me and they were so good. It was nice to be home though as it is so hot and 2 of the kids are so little they don't ride long very well! Am enjoying the baby so much. He is very happy and just smiles and coos at you when you talk to him.