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Jase, we have talked to a lawyer and basically until the DHS is not involved anymore there isn't anything we can do. But I have told my husband he better be prepared to spend some money on a lawyer. I am hoping that we don't have to get a lawyer, but I am prepared to do so. I have a journal I write everything down in, visits and phone calls. And things the DHS worker tells me, what the mom is supposed to be doing. Connie

Hi Connie!

That's very smart to keep a journal of everything. I'm sorry you are going through so much!

I hope you all are able to have a fun and relaxing weekend, and that you have some time to yourself as well!

Hey Brandii, well, fun and relaxing, I don't know! We did spend all week redoing floors in 2 rooms and it is beautiful and now I am taking a break from unpacking stuff. I still have a bit to go and will post new pictures of the "after".

refinishing floors

Connie,

The floors are beautiful!! You should be so proud of yourself!

How was the rest of your weekend? Did you get a chance to relax from all of your hard work?

Thanks Brandii, they turned out so pretty! I am still getting things hung back on the wall. We ended up switching rooms and so things are way different, but the rooms look way larger that way. I will take some after photos and post them. I still have to iron my curtains and do a few other things. No rugs on the floor for a week. But no, no rest yet! My son hit a deer last night and luckily didn't really do much to his car. He's going to need a new hood and headlight and the airbags fixed. He got some scratches and bruising. I am still thanking god it wasn't worse than that.

Connie, Those floors look wonderful. I think I would have floors like that if I ever looked under the carpet. Not now.

I am thinking that the son in the car acccident is the son who is or has graduated. This made me realize I have never asked how your older son died. Was it a car accident? Did this accident carry reminders for you. Does this son have someone watching out for him?

I was noticing that there is a new 'topic' here at BellaO that you would have the experience to add to the discussion. I am sure you are not in the Senior age group, however this topic is in the Senior Issues section of 'News and Politics'. The subject is Grandparents Raising Grandchildren.

Summer brings grandparenting duties for me that keep me off the computer most days, so I won't be checking in very often. Have a good summer and good luck to you with the expected court dates, etc.

Take care of yourself and that granddaughter. GrannyH

Hey GrannyH, thanks for the compliments on the floors. We were just commenting right before we moved the furniture back on them that it would never look that good again! My mom called and was shocked at how nice the floors looked (from the online photos).

Yes, it was my son that just graduated that hit the deer. He was coming home from work and the deer just ran out in front of him and he hit it. He faints at the sight of blood and when he called he was very upset and said he was bleeding and both of his arms hurt really bad. I figured if he was not passed out cold that it couldn't be too bad and he is very animated and we always tease that he is a diva. By the time I got there his arms were both really swollen, but he could move his wrists and fingers. The next morning he had a bunch of red marks and superficial cuts. His windshield didn't break so there was no glass. The car is driveable, just needs a new hood. He was very lucky, and yes, my other son died in a car accident caused by a deer and it didn't really hit me how lucky I was until I got ready for bed. It took a while to drift off to sleep that night. I prayed a lot that night and said many thanks to God.

I will have to look into the Senior Issues section. I will be 41 in August so I am not a senior yet, but I have a friend that tells me I have a really old soul. I am not sure quite what that means! But it is a compliment from her. We met online in 1995 and emailed and phoned for 4 years and we finally met each other. She lives in Georgia and I was in Texas at the time. We are still best of friends, she is my soul sister. She is the one I dump on all the time and never does she judge me. I just wish we lived way closer! But I feel very blessed to have such a good friend. If I could only have one friend for sure it would be her. We joke about sharing a room in a nursing home when we get older.

Have fun with your grandchildren. Tiffany (she just turned 5) was over visiting on Saturday and was bringing some pickles up from the basement with Papa and he told her "maybe you shouldn't be carrying those" and about that time she fell and broke the jar and cut her hand very badly. So she was off the the er and told Papa from the car that he shouldn't ought to have let her carry them pickles. We cleaned up (my daughter had brought her new boyfriend over and we had a nice afternoon sitting outside under a tree as we had wet floors) and headed into town to the er. When we arrived we could hear poor Tiffany screaming from the back of the er. Always makes you feel helpless to know your loved ones are in pain and you can't help. The dr fussed at my daughter and told her that he couldn't stitch my grandaughter up (3 nurses were holding her down) and she should act better. So they ended up sedating her and Tiff had to stay for 4 hrs so the sedation would wear off enough for her to leave. She got numerous stitches and it was a bad end to a lovely afternoon.

I didn't mean to write a mini novel here! Tommorow Mary Jayne's mom is coming here for a visit so I will have to update everyone on how that went...Connie

Hey GrannyH, I noticed you were one of the top posters for the last 30 days...go girl!!

My thoughts will be with you during the visit tomorrow.

And yeah, I have a problem not knowing when to move away from the computer.

LOL, I have that problem too but don't get many posts! Will let ya'll know how the visit is....