I think it's not really how we look at the change but what we do with the outcome of the change. I think all change, whether good or bad, helps us to become who we are and happens for some reason whether on accidental or we bring it upon ourselves. I made the decision a few yrs ago to change my major in college which was a huge deal to me and with that change I've grown so much as an individual. I think I'm more independent and out going with meeting new people etc. because the major kinda forces you to be that way. So to me it's about how you use the change. :)