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My cousin has always been a self-centered snob living with no regard for others at all. I won't go on and on about it.. But now that she just had a baby... well she is getting all kinds of attention. Not just a baby shower, she is being showered herself just for becoming a mother. I cannot believe how there are pictures everywhere of her and her baby. I can see maybe one.. nope. She emails them, mails them and on and on. My mother is seriously ill and this sweetie never once came or called to visit until now that she has this baby to show off. Everyone keeps saying, "what a great mom she is" Wait, does that now make her a great person? This is just a role, not a whole new makeover of her personality people! Hopefully she will be a good mom, the baby is new, all she is doing is feeding it and showing it off right now. Let us see if she continues to do good as the baby grows up and has more needs!!! I just cannot believe the fuss being made over her- the mom!! I understand some people ga ga over babies, but the mother?????? This is like she had the biggest accomplishment of her life and she didn't earn this at all! I just don't get it!! It is truly as if she just joined the club of mothers and now she has gone way up in the ranks of this family and in society everywhere. I just have always felt more kicked back becuase of NOT being a mother, and now to have this loser chic being fawned over only because of that role??
Well on the bright side, although I am up late I don't have to worry about a baby crying in the middle of the night or waking me up too early tom. morning huh?!!!

Hi chiak,

Your cousins sounds just like my older sister. My sister, who I am not close to, is the most self-centered person I have, and probably will even know. She has never done anything for anyone other than take advantage of them. However, since she is a mother people seem to give her a lot a slack.

She has always gotten a great deal of attention for having children. The weird thing is that she is actually a good mother. Her two kids, truly adore her and they are really great kids.

Which goes to show that you can be a horrible person to society and yet be a wonderful mother (weird as it may sound).

Giselle

I have noticed that self-centered, self-absorbed people appear to consider their babies to be extensions of themselves. In fact, I have observed some selfish people seeming to have them in order to double attention grabbing opportunities for themselves.

What's bad is if (or when) the kids figure out that mommy is living vicariously through them.

You know,from what I have seen, the producing the baby part is the easiest part. Ergo, becoming a Mother is not all that difficult if not practically effortless(sans the physical piece). Of course, there are a few individuals out there who for one reason or another have trouble making a baby, but they are the exception not the rule. So the endless accolades for becoming a mother are a little over the top. Just about anyone can get preggers and have a wee one. I think the parties and showers should come at the end when 'baby' has grown into adulthood and become a PRODUCTIVE and INDEPENDANT member of society. How many parents today have 20 or 30 year old children living with them still???? Its just sad.

LMAO Its true! Some girls get pregnant to feel loved. How pathetic is that? How can you use an innocent life to raise your self esteem.??? COME-ON! What i hate to see the most is when a YOUNG "mother" 17-23 has one baby and like two seconds later she pops another one by another guy! WTF is wrong with those ppl..like..isnt one child enough? or are they just poppin out children for attention & money?? Like a contest ..WHO CAN GATHER THE MOST MONEY. IDK The worse part is like [Kupkake said] they dont even become good adults because here are these women who pop one out, then another and another..and at the end these children don't grow up to be anything because the mom is an air head (she wanted attention) and neglected her own kids. :/ Its sucks to say but this generalization applies to MANY!!!!!!

I agree. Women get praised and congratulated for having kids regardless of their age, education level or financial status. Young girls get knocked up but friends and family hold baby showers with gifts and money etc. To most people, it seems that pregnancy is a happy event no matter what the circumstances are. I think women should be told the truth and reality: Kids take alot of work, time, money and will change your like forever. They should be given the good, bad and ugly before making any decisions about what to do with the baby. I personally think that I only look at the negative side of things when it comes to kids and am leaning towards not having kids. At least I am living in reality and have an idea what I would be getting into.

I always found it funny when pregnant women get extra attention. Of course, when someone close to me is having a child I ask questions, because I care. But to glorify a person because they're expecting seems a little silly. My favorite is when pregnant people "DEMAND" the extra attention. A friend of mine once acted like she couldn't carry a shopping bag into the house because she was pregnant, and wanted everyone to fuss over her. It was SO obnoxious!

I always found it funny when pregnant women get extra attention. Of course, when someone close to me is having a child I ask questions, because I care. But to glorify a person because they're expecting seems a little silly. My favorite is when pregnant people "DEMAND" the extra attention. A friend of mine once acted like she couldn't carry a shopping bag into the house because she was pregnant, and wanted everyone to fuss over her. It was SO obnoxious!

I know what you mean about people acting like it's a good thing no matter what. Maybe in a different world it would be (for those that want kids). As far as young girls getting showers and money...they'll need it more than other moms who are financially ready.

Have you guys seen the YouTube vid by Garfunkel and Oates called "Pregnant Women are Smug"? If not, watch it ASAP. You'll get a kick out of it =)