>You seem like an excellent candidate for reproduction because of the qualities you reflect in your writing. I respect whatever decision you make, although I question your partner's opinion. He already has a daughter, you say, but has not considered the value a brother or sister would offer her.
Wow, that sounds like a wildly inappropriate thing to say! First, the OP DOESN'T WANT a child -- that makes her an excellent candidate to NOT have one, in my book.
Second, that argument that you need to have another child to give first child a sibling is equally inappropriate, on multiple levels. I'm saying this as a woman who has an only child, not by choice but by circumstance. I have known many who had an only by choice, too. Whatever works for them.
But I will tell you -- my only child has had times when he was young and wished for a sibling, then times when he was older -- about 10, I think (he's 16 now) when he said he thinks it is better being an only. There is no cut and dried right path for all.
I'm glad that Pamela has a good attitude for her life and her child-situation, but it doesn't mean that it is the only view, or that it is what is right for all others.