BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids Pulled aside at work b/c of my opinions!

WOW, to be honest I don't really see why she should of even had a complaint ? These days it is almost like you have to watch every little thing you say and do, but I don't do that and I'm glad you didn't. And it really amazes me that so many people are so self centered....meaning just because I like cake doesn't mean everyone else has to.

I was talking to a friend of mine at school yesterday a about this same topic- what does a CF person say when asked if they want kids?

My friend (who is a mom) pointed out that I was up against two kinds of bias as I interview for jobs and interact with co-workers. The first bias is the fact that I am almost 30, married, with no kids yet. In the South, that tells employers that I will definately be having kids in the next five years. (we talked about that in another thread).

On the other hand, if I say, "I'm not having kids!" Then I am up against what my friend calls "the conservative Southern gentleman," who would feel that not having kids is a slap in the face to proper morality. It would also offend a lot of women who agree with that philosophy.

So if I don't talk about my CF status, then I won't be able to get a job, but if I do, I'll offend people.

It's definatly a fine line to walk. An annoying fine line.

Obviously, the solution is to put your apron back on and get into the kitchen where you belong ...

When a girl at my office asked about it, I said, "I've given it some thought and decided on never." (Okay, so I stole it from Baby Not on Board.) She laughed and dropped the subject.

Here's hoping you never get reprimanded for answering that simple question that was instigated by your co-workers.

Seriously, how dare she? If the question had been about religion you probably would have due course of action in regards to discrimination. (Hence why I don't talk about mine (or lack thereof) here in the south)

19 is very young to be having children, and at 37 I would think that you would indeed be mature enough by now to know whether or not you truly needed to breed.

PS: DH and I both come from 4+ children families, however, we have 5 dogs if that says anything to you.

I find this funny:
mothers can cry and guilt trip everyone and complan about how horrible there life is with kids and in the same breath bash the childfree for not wanting kids and go on for days about the joys of mother hood!

I think we should stand up and say if there is a dont asked dont tell policy for sexual preference and religous beliefs then there SHOULD be one for the reproductive disitions you have kids great leave the hellions at home and dont bitc# about them at work and dont yap about every little poop they have made from birth! you dont have kids great then you dont have to bring it up at all!

If you arent supost to talk sex and church then this is how I see this Sex is a taboo topic and kids are a by product of sex so they are a taboo topic church is a taboo topic and kids are a manditory must have thing for most religions so kids are a taboo topic! either way you go kids are taboo!

I would point that out the next time!