It's a big problem and often leads to unhappy marriage and divorce.
I've seen it many times over the years - women give up their careers/jobs/hobbies/interests/friends and focus entirely on their kids.
My colleague/friend has just ended his marriage of 24 years - his exact words, "she is a great mother but somewhere along the way she stopped being a wife"...
I think it's sad when kids become your entire focus long term - I can understand when your kids are small, it might be difficult to include other things in your life BUT, as the kids get older surely it's more stimulating and satisfying to feed your own identity a little more...take up an interest, a course or go back to work...don't let the "individual" die...
Last edited by Deborah49; 03/04/08 02:38 AM.