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Happy, not a weird post at all. The only reason I didn't respond was I couldn't think of anyone female of that description. I think it's more common for men, that I've known.

I'm like Tress where I know that if I'd been with a different guy in my 20's there's a good chance I'd have kids by now. I'll never know for sure if that would have been bad or good for me, though I'm kind of glad I didn't, because right now they'd be a teen. And maybe I'd be dead of a heart attack from worrying so much and lack of sleep.

I think that it is the way I am going to have to go, unfortunatly. I'm turning 30 this year, and I feel like I am in the thick of the baby craze...everyone I date seems to be looking for the "one to start a family with." I feel like I am going to have to remain alone until I am old enough not to be able to have one, or until the men that are the appropriate age for me are old enough not to want one (maybe because they've already had one?). Or I can date 50 year olds. It's pretty depressing

Hey guys, very interesting. I'm probably too sensitive sometimes, and sometimes when I am online I want to respond to something, but don't have time... and then the thread is at the bottom and I forget about it. Or I'm just not on for a few days or something. I hope you don't all think I was mad I was just wondering if I'm as odd as sometimes I think I am Most of the time I am happy to be my own person, but sometimes I feel weird about being different.

That's interesting what someone said above about men being the ones to late until it's too late to have kids, and then hooking up. It is true that as you get older, if you wait because you don't really want kids (not that that's why you wait. but you aren't as motivated to hook up if you don't want kids) that many of the guys will have kids from a previous marriage. I was becoming keenly aware of that around the time I met my DH, and I thank God I found one that was divorced, but didn't have kids.

God I wish people would think about this more before they have kids. I think so many people don't really want them after they figure out what it is about, and want their freedom back, but it isn't fair to the kids.

I got married at 20 (I am 24 now). The thought of children never crossed my mind to be honest. I met the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with and that was the end of it.

We love travelling and love our pets so people who know us realise pretty quickly that we are childfree.

Being a Christian the pressure of having children is there but I was lucky enough to have a few childfree Christian friends who are in their 30's.

We have always found it easier being friends with older couples. We seem to have more in common with them.