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I am 24; I'll be 25 on February 24th. DH is 26.

We decided that we were going to live our lives child-free right before we got married when I was 22 and he was 23.

I am 33. I will be 34 in July. I decided at a very early age, around my grade school years. My mom had a book about where babies come from, she bought the book for me and my sister to read. My sister read the book, then I started looking at the book until I got to one particular part. I said to my mom, "That looks like it hurt." She replied with, "It does." Needless to say that my mind was made up at that very instant. I did not look back, not even once. Although I did receive various bingo-s during my upbriging and even up until I had my two operations. The first being a tubal, the second being an ablation. Both were elective, according to my health insurance plan, but were neccessary for me. I am perfectly content being 'Aunty Kelly.' Although my partner wants children, I told him that I was not going to have them. He does know of my operations and what's good about this is that he expresses his thoughts and feelings about my choices, but realizes that I have the final say over what will and will not happen to my body. I don't tell him what to do with his body, he doesn't tell me what to do with mine. So far, he has no objections. But we will see as time goes on as I have made no secrets about it from the time we first met.

Myrabeth- Are you having a hard time finding someone who will do the Essure procedure for you since you are under 30? I am just curious because I have actually been meaning to call my doctor to talk about getting Essure too.

Hi!

I am 28 (29 in October), DH is 31 (32 in July). I was the fencesitter in our relationship. Your supportive advices here at this site made it easier for me to make my decision. Hubby never really wanted kids. I think he already knew it as a teenager!

We love our life the way it is now!

Juliana

I am 33 and my husband is 31. He has always pretty much known that he did not like kids/want kids. I think I always thought that I would have them "just because" but the older I get the less I want to have kids. I feel that as I got older I realized more and more how hard it is to have and raise kids. There are phyiscal burdens, financial burdens, restrictions on time etc. and came to realize that having kids is not all it is cracked up to be. It is hard work with no guarantees and I discovered that it was not a road that I wanted to travel. Sometimes I do wonder if I will regret the decision but not enough to make me want children.

My husband and I are both 26. We met when I was 21 and he almost was.

I have never really had the urge to have a child, when I was younger I had a lot to do with little kids (and liked it), although I was the oldest grandchild on both sides of my family, I think I thought about adoption a bit. I guess I never thought about it much till my mid-late teens and have been definate about my decision since somewhere around 18. My husband didn't really think about it untill he was 20 (just before we met). We have talked about being CF ever since we met really, I expressed it more strongly than him at the beginning, but he feels just as strongly. He does come from a family of 9 kids, with other large families all around, so it is even more so 'just what you do'.

chatty, I haven't officially started looking yet, because of finances. I expect to run into resistance, though. I'll keep everyone updated when I start trying to get it set up.

Recently turned 44, b/f is 45.

i'm 31 and husband is 33. this forum has been a big part of me claiming CF as my choice b/c i was always planning on kids and only started actually thinking about it a few years ago (maybe more like 5 years?) with every passing year, i'm more and more sure.

I'm...28? I think? Yeah, 28. I'm also wretched at remembering numbers, and I don't much care how old I am (constantly bewildered by women who flip out about admitting their age, and LIE about it! How stupid! If you look younger than your age, flaunt it!) My guy is...30? Man I'm bad. >_<