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I'm 36. I didn't bring both feet over the CF fence until spring of last year. It was a decision I didn't have to make, and since my husband (now ex) had a vasectomy, I didn't need to worry about it.

I started dating my current boyfriend a year ago. He's also snipped, but he's also 52 and didn't want kids. He by no means made that decision for me, but after much soul-searching on my own, it's really the best decision. Previous to making that decision, I, like so many others, just thought of having kids as "the thing to do." Nahhhh...

I'm 26 and a half (seriously, it's six months until my birthday) and DH is 36 and a half. I've always kind of known, but like Lynne thought that I'd adopt. Then, when DH & I got together, I had some health problems that meant that we had to make a decision fairly quickly. He had always thought that children were just what you did, but when we sat down and talked about it, he realised that he likes our lifestyle and children would change everything. Thus we're both now CFBC.

I'll be 27 in a few months (shut up, Lynette. I can hear the snickering!) and I've never wanted kids. I think the first time I said so to someone was when I was about 12.

My fiance became a father at 23 (oopsed by his then-gf). He's 31 now and supporting my dream of being sterilized.

(One way or another, I'm going to get Essure done before I hit 30! The sooner, the better!)

I'm 28 (29 in August), and SO is 27 (28 in April).

Like Trisharoni, I've known for just about forever that I was CF, and my fiance and I decided together early on in the relationship that we didn't want kids.

My fiance had a vasectomy 5 days ago. He would have done it years ago if I hadn't been able to take the pill.

Hi kittybeep - I'm sorry you get those stupid comments. I used to get them when I was your age!

They have slowed down a little bit now... but I'm wondering what it will be like after SO and I have gotten married...?

I'm 26, my boyfriend will be 29 in a few months.

I knew I didn't want kids at 13.

People laughed, joked etc... however having started my periods at the age of 9... I knew after a few years that I really had no desire to reproduce and when I was *still* saying the same thing 10 plus years later, some people have actually accepted I am unlikely to change my mind.

I never wanted to play with dolls as a kid, I wanted knight rider toys, why would I want a baby in a pram? throw the plastic thing out and stick the cat in there... or a chicken, we had a lot of those growing up.... :-)

Gee, LL, you are wise beyond your years.

I forgot to post when we decided to be CF. Up until last year I still hoped to be a MUm "one day". But that's the thing with me - I sort of wanted the status of it and the kodak moments "one day". Just not now when it could interfere with where my life was at. All my life I have had amazing opportunities that have come my way and I have just grabbed. They never involved raising a family. I never ever prioritised it.

My DH is a parent and raised a son. He was a great, responsible, caring father. He is a wonderful man. In another life, if we had met when we were 30 or so (I am 42, he is 49 and we met 2.5 years ago) I think we might have had quite a cool time raising a family. But that was then, this is now.

"Now" is this. I am at an age where pregnancy would be a risk. He has developed (?) secondary infertility. He has raised a son and is dying to be free. We are paying off debts he acquired after his marriage break-up and raising his son on his own (mother deserted...). I am TIRED. We have many opportunities. If we had a child, in its teenage years we would be in our 60's. The kid would have a 1/2 brother 21 years older and no young siblings or cousins to play with. I had to graciously accept that the time for me being a parent had been and gone, and that it was clearly never my priority (because everything else that was a priority for me I made darned sure happened). Now I have reached a stage of feeling truly grateful to be CF, especially after reading the article Frieda posted - thank you for posting that (oh my god!).

OK, now I am procrastinating and time to work on presentation...

I'm 28, my husband is 29.

I am 23 and DH is 30. We discussed kids much more when we first got married (Married 4 years in July). It doesn't matter to him because either way I think he'd be perfectly happy with his life. The only time he might feel pressure is when he thinks about being an only child. As for me, I've just begun considering the idea of being CF within the last 2 years and have been 99.99% sure of it for the last year.

I was always one of those people who assumed it would just "happen" as it does for everyone else in my life, though I also always wanted to adopt instead of have my own. My mother in law can't understand that concept for anything.

Oh, and a puppy (or any cute, furry animal) would melt my heart over a baby ANY day!

I'll be 38 this year. I decided CF was the way to go at age 27.
I got snipped at age 36. My only regret was not getting it done earlier so I could have skipped the one pregnancy scare with my ex-gf.