Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. It is a heart-breaking exeperience, a little life gone before we even got to know him/her.
Please don't feel guilty for wanting another child. We all are here wanting to be mums, and wanting to share our love with a child.
Whether you already have kids or this was your first pregnancy, it still is a real tragedy. My mum had 5 kids. She was such a great mum, and for us it was so good to grow up having each other.
I am 28, and have had 4 miscarriages. Part of me says like you, you are still young, that there is so much I can do. But for me the greatest adventure would be to be a mum. It is something that I feel would come naturally to me, and a life I feel a great calling to.
Unfortunately it hasn't happened like that. All I can do is be patient and see what happens, and deal with it all when it happens. Sometimes I get quite sad about it all, because for the last year and a half I have been in limbo, my career has gone downhill because I couldn't concentrate on anything else but having a baby, and of course it is all secret because I don't want my boss getting any wind of this.
After 4 miscarriages, I have to start thinking about my life. Have learned that having a child is not a choice or cannot be planned. It is all part of nature, and sometimes even though we might have all the right parts and it might be the perfect time, it just doesn't happen like that. There is no real explanation, and not many words can comfort. It just makes me value life so much more. Oh dear..
Well what we've decided to do, is to just try and keep planning other stuff. We are going travelling in India in Feb and to the US in April. So this will keep our minds open. Am trying to get my driving test at the moment and do think about maybe doing a night course at the beginning of next year.
Sometimes I feel that maybe we should adopt, that there are plenty of kids out there that need to be loved. And feel bad that I want to bring another child into this world when there are so many kids that need loving parents. There are a hundred things that go thru the brain, and we feel guilty for our natural maternal instincts. It is part of us to want to be a mother, to bear children, (ideally) the product of love between the man I love and myself.
My advice is just to be open, and let nature take its course. I haven't used contraception for years. If you are not sure, this is a really good site about understanding your cycle, and then you can decide each month whether to avoid ovulation or to give it ago:BellaOnline ALERT: Raw URLs are not allowed in these forums for security reasons. Please use UBB code. If you don't know how to do UBB code just post here for help - we will help out!