Miscarriage early... - 01/07/08 03:57 AM
Hi,
I don't usually "post" my feelings but I am hoping for some guidance here. I am a lucky mom to 3 beautiful children ages 11-4. My husband and I decided through much deliberation to add to our family. I have never taken more than one try to get pregnant but this time it took nearly six months and FINALLY I became pregnant. After 3 positive tests I went to the dr a week later and the nurse told me I wasn't pregnant. I got totally freaked out but the dr came in and said my test WAS positive but it was just very early and the nurse made an error. Well three days later at nearly 6 wks I miscarried. this was my first miscarriage and I haven't been the same since (it happened 2 and half weeks ago).
I feel that maybe I was being greedy to want a fourth child? Is that crazy? Now I am scared to try again and my husband isn't sure we should.
We're young, 33 and 35, and have kids who don't "need us" in that baby way. He's ready to begin grownup life. I am so scared to stop being a baby's mom. I don't know how to be anything but that for nearly 12 years now.
If I don't try again how do I move forward with my life? I hear people in my head saying "You're young, go get a career, work go back to college (I only completed two years) etc." But, I feel that in my heart I am meant to be a mom, I am meant to raise another baby. I am devoted to my family but now I am scared of A-having another miscarriage and B- ending up with an ill child. Is it greedy to want 4?
PLease offer help...
I just don't know what to do here. Any help?
I don't usually "post" my feelings but I am hoping for some guidance here. I am a lucky mom to 3 beautiful children ages 11-4. My husband and I decided through much deliberation to add to our family. I have never taken more than one try to get pregnant but this time it took nearly six months and FINALLY I became pregnant. After 3 positive tests I went to the dr a week later and the nurse told me I wasn't pregnant. I got totally freaked out but the dr came in and said my test WAS positive but it was just very early and the nurse made an error. Well three days later at nearly 6 wks I miscarried. this was my first miscarriage and I haven't been the same since (it happened 2 and half weeks ago).
I feel that maybe I was being greedy to want a fourth child? Is that crazy? Now I am scared to try again and my husband isn't sure we should.
We're young, 33 and 35, and have kids who don't "need us" in that baby way. He's ready to begin grownup life. I am so scared to stop being a baby's mom. I don't know how to be anything but that for nearly 12 years now.
If I don't try again how do I move forward with my life? I hear people in my head saying "You're young, go get a career, work go back to college (I only completed two years) etc." But, I feel that in my heart I am meant to be a mom, I am meant to raise another baby. I am devoted to my family but now I am scared of A-having another miscarriage and B- ending up with an ill child. Is it greedy to want 4?
PLease offer help...
I just don't know what to do here. Any help?