And there is no way we should hurt someone's already low self-esteem! That would be way worse than the long term burden of having another child raising a child, or handing the child off to her parents to raise.
The thing that I notice now is that there is no 'shame' associated with a lot of these 'bad' activities anymore.
Why does it seem so #$%@ed up that if a typical person is shown two people:
1) A 16 year old single mother with no father
or
2) An 20-40something adult (married/involved or not), a productive, job-holding, tax-paying, take the trash out, follows the law -- stable and average in every way person except he/she is willingly not having a child.
People will jump on person 2 (us) for our responsible choice, but leave person 1 (irresponsible) alone?
Society's priorities are sooo screwed up.