BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids OMG this BABY THING!!!

I definitely have noticed this Linux Lady!!

One of my friends, mother of two rambunctious todders, said as a response once, "I hope it's not our fault you don't want kids."

That almost made me feel bad, because in fact, I hate to say it, but being around their family does make me feel like I couldn't do it. And I love them! It's just overwhelming to watch. I would never tell her that though. It wasn't the whole reason, or even close, but it does influence me a little.

It's been great reading along during the holidays, although I had only limited internet access due to all of the traveling we did. I feel so bad for everyone who was abused by their families over the holidays. I really love my family on both sides, but sometimes they make me really angry by the things that come out of their mouths. It's like everyone else in the family can feel free to spout their opinions, but my husband and I are forced to sit mute. They keep telling us that they miss us and are so glad we're visiting, and then speak disrespectfully?

The thing that bothers me about glamorized pregnancy is that my husband finds pregnant women very sexy. I will bet 1 million dollars (think Dr. Evil) that he's never seen a real pregnant belly, I don't think he'd find it all that sexy.

I hear of guys like that, but my husband seems turned off by pregnant women. He does like how healthy and glowing they are (if they really are) but I know he's a little put off by the belly. He was pretty honest with me about that, I guess so I wouldn't be shocked if I ever got pregnant. Although it would hurt to have him feel that way, I can kind of understand it, and would probaby feel the same way if I was a guy. It's such a huge change. I have to admit hearing him say that made me want to be pregnant less. If I was married to a guy who loved that, I'd feel better about doing it (if I were to do it, but I'm not.)

lng, he needs to live with a pregnant lady for a few weeks ... I'd bet that he'd find it scary instead of sexy.

I know if I was ever pregnant, I'd be a [censored] on wheels. If I was miserable, you could bet your a$$ that my hubby would be paying for it right along with me. You wanted it - here, bite on this!! "pukes on his loafers and walks away"

My ex BF doesn't know how lucky he is!! (LMAO)

I can sympathise on the baby front. My parents were looking after great grandbaby before Xmas so bro and gf could go and shop. So I call, and all I get is "oh, the baby just puked up her lunch, she's so cute" and "oops, we left her on the floor with her diaper off and she peed on the carpet - what a bad baby!" WTFF?? Like I CARE or WANT to hear about it!! And this from the mother who told me "give me grandchildren, and I'll kill you". Maybe great grandchildren are different!!

I'll call tonight and wish them happy new year, maybe the baby brain will be switched off today (grrr).

I can TOTALLY relate to this! Yes! It's like, let's spend a fortune on the baby. But, in my mind, if the grandparents are going to throw all of those presents and cash in the direction of their childed adult children, they should throw the same amount of money at the single or unchilded adult children. You could argue that, "oh, but it's for the grandchild." True, but of course the unchilded adult is going to be hurt by this.

My DH and I fought about this last week after we got back from visiting with his family. Same scenario. And it hurts even more b/c DH and I have our act together, and his sister and her DH don't, but none of that matters b/c they have the grandkids. Sorry, I'm not impressed. And it makes me jealous, and I feel invisible and really angry. I swear we aren't going there next year.

At least in m family, my other sister is single without kids. So we aren't the "unchilded" ones like we are in DH's family.

I know! I avoid these people in the every day world. But when they are family, what can you do? I'm trying to figure out how I can do this. I don't think we should have to interact with people that make us feel bad just b/c they are family. I know some people are really into "family obligations," going to weddings and social events just b/c you are related to the person. I don't put a lot of stock in DNA. The people I've met and befriended run circles around any of my blood relatives. I prefer their company.

This is an awesome thread. Ingilbert, it sounds really wild that you were around such large families. I would have had a really hard time with that, too. I'm telling you - I get it. It's like being back in high school, and everyone is exactly the same, and they ridicule anyone that's different. We shouldn't have to deal with this [censored] in the adult world!

I was wearing one of the those peasant tops over the holiday, and I saw a picture of myself wearing it and said I looked pregnant. And my MIL said, "and you are," jokingly. And then she said, "we won't go there." Damn effing right we won't. There's no reason for her to ever go there. It's none of her business, and she has NO say in it. Her kids can barely stand her, and she's encouraging me to have kids. That would be like if I was a hairdresser, and a miserable failure at it, and had to reinvent myself, but encouraged everyone I knew to become a hairdresser. It's really bizarre!!!!

My DH's grandma got me and SIL the same sweater for Christmas. It's got an empire waist and it's long like a tunic. It's a gorgeous green color. I put it on the other day - makes me look pregnant. It's getting returned this week. It's NOT a maternity sweater, but there is NO WAY in HELL I'm wearing something that might make people think I'm expecting.

Uggg!!! That sounds EXACTLY like something my mom would say....ever so polite. Yeah right.