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Sorry I don't have the link but it's on the ABC News site today. This woman underwent fertility treatments at age 67 ( or 66) and has a couple of babies! It's a very sad story I think. I don't know what she was even thinking in the first place; well, unfortunately I do.

That's ridiculous. A lot of people start to have health problems in like their 40s or 50s. It's so selfish to have kids that late in life. My grandmom died at 75, for God's sake. I'm sure her kids will be thrilled to go into foster care if she passes away. The poor kids.

IM 60yrs old and i agree that its so selfish of her, so much is at stake for that baby,

Yeah, it's like there are seasons of life. And her childbearing stage has passed. People really struggle with this stuff, though. Like midlife crisis. I think some women probably have kids in their 40s because they don't want to accept that they are getting older. It must be so much harder for them to chase little ones around. I know some people are very healthy and fit later in life, but it gets harder. I'm 36, and my metabolism has taken a bit of a hit. And other stuff gets tougher, too. Better them than me!

As Ian Malcolm would say, "Your scientists were so preoccupied with whether or not they could, they didn't stop to think if they should."

And as Malcolm Reynolds would say, "Shiny."

I am 46 and wanted to foster a child. My DH went through the classes with me. About half way through the classes he told me that he just didn't want the responsibility at this age. I am of the opinion that it takes two to make it a yes. Although I am disappointed I understand his feelings. I agree with you happy that 60 year old parents are not thinking long term. The foster system is overwhelmed. I am enjoying mentoring through the Big Brothers Big Sisters program. I can't help but think that Hollywood is partially responsible for this idea of the romanticized view of motherhood at 50+

Yeah, there's this stage called menopause..it happens for a reason!

and this is where the sadness comes in
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Why would anyone want to have kids at that age? Most people that age are thinking about taking a nice cruise or playing some serious golf.
I've always felt uncomfortable with older men and women having kids.
I think its hard enough losing your parents when you're middle aged - if you're parents are 50 or 60 when you're born, you're likely to lose them when you're still very young or even in your childhood.
I was 36 when my father died - he was 68 - what a traumatic and painful experience..
Also, you can't tell me people of that age are active enough or patient enough for young kids. I imagine they'd need lots of help.
If you suddenly felt the need at that age - why not foster an older kid or a teenager?
AND the demands on your body at that age - my brother's partner just had her 4th baby at almost 42 years of age - she said it was SO much harder this time - back and neck pain, exhaustion and fluid retention.
Just because you want a child, doesn't mean you should have one.
I think there's a time when most people know they're past having kids of their own, accept the fact and move on...
I think anyone wanting to get pregnant at 68 needs some counselling NOT fertility treatment.