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Skeeter, I hope you NEVER go through something like this because once you have had your spouse cheat, you will totally understand the advice I have given. There is every reason to think the things I have said IF he is really cheating.
I kind of envy people who have no idea about things like this. Honestly, now that I have seen this side of a relationship, I don't know how to get back into one.

I guess I see your point...i havn't been burned like that yet (hopefully never)..so I see where you are coming from...but at the same point..if he isn't cheating, I think that she could damage the relationship further..

Skeeter

I know what you mean, but you have to answer the questions. I know when I thought something was up I asked him. He covered his tracks, was MORE careful. Then our neighbor told me when I had gone to stay overnight with my parents, he had the very woman over at OUR home that I had suspected him of cheating with. I said nothing. I found his cell phone bill, he had been calling her AND it was for more then just a few minutes. I just kept my eyes open, when the chance to check something came to me, I checked it.

I think if your going to check things, you have to go easy at first for the very reason you say at first. Don't go right out and hire a private investigator. I personally might stop in to take him to lunch for a surprise a couple times at work.

I had so many clues that something was going on, it wasn't just my suspicions. His other woman was even calling and leaving harassing messages for me at home. He acted like it was nothing AND kept right on seeing her. Kept telling me she was just a friend.

IF you have a man like that, he will say anything to cover his tracks, do anything. I say IF because logically they can't ALL be that way. BUT once they start cheating, you will be surprised at the things they are capable of.

Sorry 4 your pain. I have been cheated on and its the worst feeling ever. If he is cheating, from my experience I would never try to work it out. That was my biggest mistake trying to stay to work it out. You forgive but you never forget it and I was and am truly in love with this man and it wont' go away. hopeful

[color:#000099][font:Century Gothic][size:11pt]Let's be realistic.Cheating destroys the very basic concept of a marriage or a relationship.

That concept is TRUST.

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Cheating is so hurtful. I'm going through it myself.. don't wish it upon anyone. I truly hope everything is works out in your marriage and that he is being faithful. I wish you nothing but the best.

You should speak to your husband about this frankly. If he is seriously interested in another person pl. break-up.

wow, I know how you feel I am going through the same thing. I feel my dh is cheating with the young woman accross the street. I have no hard evidence just small things. However, he is so good at his game that he has not lost interest in me, everything is the same but I feel something is wrong and different. there is nothing I can do. Just beaware and wait till you have real evidence. ARe you able to go to the picnic? As far as what to do when it all comes out that is up to you. If you want to stay and salvage your marriage? Or go because it will happen again more than likely.

Good luck!