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Ingilbert I liked your post. Now I am curious, how did you know? What signs did you see at age five? I believe you, and like you I believe it is biological (well at least most of the time), but I wonder what it was that told you? My bf son is a homosexual, and I guess we always knew, and waited for him to know. Now he knows, and I am very happy for him. And yes, the 11 year old is spoiled. But I think most of the time people with all those toys and the like have a lot of debt and monthly bills. So in reality they are broke, just love credit. Stupid?

I'm not Ingelbert, but I noticed when I was very young (in the single digits) that I had a very different reaction to babies and much younger children than my peers. Other little girls swarmed babies and toddlers, squealing with delight. I felt repelled by them and didn't understand their excitement. I could tell my feelings were abnormal, so I kept them to myself.

I found babies and toddlers to be disgusting from childhood until adulthood, when I made a conscious decision to accept them for what they are and just be glad I don't have one.

After work yesterday, when my annoyance had somewhat dissipated, my friend called me and I found out my ex's sister is due to have a baby any day now. Which is a little odd, since she's not married, lives at home with her parents, and after three miscarriages (with an ex, not the current guy, from what I'm told) she was told to stop getting pregnant because her health and that of any child that went to term would be at risk. Obviously, she ignored all of this, moved on to another guy, and kept at it.

That situation sucks in itself, but last winter I ran into another sibling (my ex has 11) who was 20 and his girlfriend 18, both first year college students, living at home with their respective parents. Guess what? His girlfriend was pregnant, too, and due this past spring. Nearly every sibling has children, most were born out of wedlock, and one sibling is on his fifth and is 27, last I heard they were on public assistance but both driving new cars....???? So far as I know, my ex doesn't have kids, but his live-in gf has two by two different daddies, and miscarried their first would-be child together.

I'm so glad I escaped the curse of that family. My birth control pill would have been no match for that level of fertility.

Don't even get me started on that!!! It's infuriating. I'm sure you guys are probably sick of hearing about my sister, (sorry!), but she is talking about getting public assistance. She spends money like it's water, and she can't afford insurance??? And, she got sick this week, and told the doctor she didn't have insurance or any money, and I think they charged her $60 something for the visit. My parents (I *know*) paid for her medicine. I told them they shouldn't have done that. She will never learn. And the *reason* she doesn't have any cash is b/c she spends all of her money on frivolous things. She doesn't pay for my nephew's expenses at all - just her own, and she still doesn't have any money. WTF!!!!

How did I know? It seems like really stereotypical stuff. When his sister was two, he started showing up at my house dressed in her clothes. He has always been very interested in dolls, his mom was always taking him to doll shows all over the country. He had several American Girl dolls. He worshiped Britney Spears in an "I want to BE her" way, not a crush. He was really ONLY interested in things aimed at girls. His whole room was decorated with Backstreet Boys and N'Sync at one point.

And he's always been very into musicals.

Once he hit puberty, it went from being a "maybe" to being reality. He was FLAMING. "Oh my god, how ARE you?" when we'd see each other.

He's always been my favorite, and I know I was his favorite babysitter because I never discouraged his behavior when the other girls did. Very intelligent, even though he never succeeded at school. He was one of the wittiest kids I knew, always able to make me laugh out loud. Very creative, very talented singer. His dream is to go to Broadway, and he's been to several workshops around the country, too.

I've never judged him for it, and I know he's had a hard time interacting with other kids, so I hope that things work out for him.

I should mention that he has never told me, but I've heard from one of his friends (whom I worked with) that it was a well-known secret. And then, of course, I saw it with my own eyes the other day.

Ingilbert, thanks for sharing. Sounds like he left little room for doubt, and good for him, he obviously had a comfort zone and you were part of it! My friends son is similarly talented, I hope they both find success.

Oops! Ignore my previous post please. Where's the edit option when you need it?!

Don't you just love the talk shows, I slept with 13 men whos the father??? That blows me away, 13 DNA testing and not one of them are the father.
I hear your frustration, but the children didn't ask to be born, therefore calling the children names isn't very nice. there innocent little people. That never hurt anyone.

I would like to respond to all the comments from above. I am a single hard working mother of 2 wonderful children. Granted I should of known after their dad hit me for the first time, but love, as they say is blind. We were together for 14 years and never even got married which in afterthought is the best thing since in my state unless court ordered, all rights go to the mother. As for the food stamps, sometimes there is no other alternative. If you were not fortunate enough to be able to get the college education you should have, and are working a low paying job whether it be fast food or waitressing or whatever, you just need some help. I am one of those women. I had my tubes tied after two children, and they both have the same father. That is a rarity nowadays. Needless to say I knew then that 2 was more than enough. I work hard and always have but unfortunately I work in a job that doesn't pay all that well. All Kids insurance is my savior. If I had to get insurance through my job for my children as well, I would have no paycheck at all. The cost is outragous. My childrens' health does NOT need to suffer because of my short comings. I, again, agree with most of what was said but there are some of us who do work and work hard and we are the ones that you rely on everytime you drive through that fast food place, go to a family restaurant, the cleaners, the carwash, the grocery store and every other one of those places that require employees but don't pay very much.

So that woman down the street with the 3 kids and the husband who walked out on her and she pays her youngest $20/week in addition to his allowance to stay in band?

Yeah, she just told me that she was laid off two months ago. And she doesn't want to sue her husband for child support because that takes so much time.

Where is she getting the money to bribe her kid?

I am starting to think she is full of it. I've known her for 15 years and I knew that she was odd, but she never struck me as being nuts. But now I'm starting to wonder. And if she's not, what is she teaching her kid?