It is so nice to be among others who relate
Thank you for responding and for understanding!
Feebeegeebee, congratulations on your awesome career. I would really love it if I got sent a blog about a friend's work. Most of the time I have no idea what is going on my my friends professionally, yet know all about the kids. I want to say "Tell me about YOU!!". I hope I don't get sent a blog like that...that is really terrible. Of course the blog will be completely dropped once the kid starts to create trouble. We will not hear about Little Bobby writing on the walls with crayons....or how he stole an item from a local store...I have been sent baby blogs. The most recent involved the DELIVERY of all things, which I did not want to hear about. It was blow by blow...and apparently mom was in pain. The blog notes how husband reminded mom about how they really wanted a natural child birth and that he talked her out of getting drugs to alleviate the pain. It just found that odd to e-mail to everyone....btw, I do think these things are related to my cycle too. I have definately discovered a pattern. I relate it to my body telling me, "you are in your thirties! you are running out of time! procreate! do it now, before it is too late!!"
Cindy, I have no idea about purchasing baby items. I just messed this up myself! Instead of going to the register for my brother's baby, I got a build a bear with a baseball uniform on it, representing the favorite team of my brother and I from our youth. I have not received a thank you note, e-mail, call...so my guess is that was a bad purchase? I understand about the jealousy regarding time off. I remember a few years back a friend got pregant and I thought, "wow, she will have three months out of this place!" I was incredibly envious. There seems to be no way to take three months off of work unless you have a baby. I would pledge loyalty to a company that would offer me a month off for my dream cross country road trip...or to walk the Pacific Coast trail...
lngilbert, I love your proposed CF blog and your "self serving" incorporation. I always want to do parody's of things like that. For example, my husband and I want to send out holiday newsletters discussing our cats. "Both cats have been venturing outside under our supervision. They love it! Briscoe typically stays close to the door. But not Z! He is quite the explorer! He chases butterflies, birds, you name it. His energy is exhausting...but you know young cats! The good news is that hopefully I will have some good advice when your SIL's kid comes. So far I know to avoid build a bear....:)
LastingOne, I agree with your comment about not making me feel like I am not whole for having a child. That was the thought I had in mind with my vision of all of those new moms looking at me that I mentioned above. I would love to give people the benefit of the doubt, but so few moms have been supportive of my feelings that it is hard to do so. If 95 percent of the people I met said, "hey CF, that's cool", than great. But it is the opposite. So I am cynical.
Ducky, it is so funny, we should not have to feel guilty. Why don't people feel guilty for NOT adopting a child that is here but having one of their own? It is frustrating that the "choice" has essentially been made for you...but you still have to deal with people thinking you should do more. And why do people think they know us better than we know ourselves? Your husband sounds like a great guy and the new doctor seems cool too.
Ahh, it is so good to vent