Yes, people do suck! It's redeemed my faith in humanity to find this forum with intelligent, thoughtful people.
But my colleagues are the ones who get on my nerves! Before I got married it was about my hair, my make up my clothes (and sometimes I still get that and it REALLY annoys me! Whose hair/make up/clothes is it ANYWAY. Plus some of the ones who said that didn't look so great themSELVES!)
What is it with the fashion advice??? I really hadn't connected this to mothers, more just women in general. But I absolutely cannot stand it. I need some comebacks for that too! I swear, people have been watching too many reality fashion makeover tv shows or something. I seem to attract this kind of advice where women can't resist their desire to give me a makeover. It's so insulting. My hair is hard to manage enough, and I really don't appreciate other women who have no idea what it's like who think they could do a better job of it. Also, I mentioned earlier about the gray hair thing...Chaco, if you do this prepare for an onslaught of criticisms. If you're under 50, female, and let your hair go gray, you are not fit to be out in public according to EVERY WOMAN I KNOW. My husband likes it, but other women think it's appalling. I was against using dyes because they're toxic, but when I tell women that they do not accept it. My dad's girlfriend would lecture me about my hair every time she saw me. She did the same thing to her own daughter. Now her daughter is fighting cancer, and though it's probably not related to hair dye (though we'll never know), I can't help but want to say to her, "Uh, now does dying her hair seem important? Now that her hair's gone?"
I have curly hair, and some women seem to think this is unacceptable looking too, and that I should be straightening it. Then I blow dry it straight, and what happens? A whole other subset of women gives me the "Oh, curly hair is so wonderful, you should just let it be natural" blather. I wish I could just slap the entire female population all at once sometimes (with the exception of this forum).
Okay, well, I should probably be ranting about this in the fashion forum, so even though I could write a novel about this subject, I won't even get INTO the hair and makeup topics.
Another colleague said I should have "At least ONE." but a different person who'd just had her first said "Think about it CAREFULLY because once they're out there, you can't just put them back IN again."
I have heard this many times too, especially from my mother, who continues to insist that ONE won't impact my life AT ALL, and would be soooooo eaaaasssssyy. Of course, once you have one you have all the people bugging you about how your depriving it of siblings, which I hear all the time too. I'll probably never know how bad that would be, since I'm probably going to have NONE.
My guess is these nimrods who CAN't WAIT for you to have a baby are just gnashing their teeth in excitement over your impending misery if you were to have one.
Thanks for sharing Athena...I really appreciate it!!