I recently became engaged and since that time I've noticed that my coworker says things to me that appear to me to be marked with some envy. She's a single parent and never married. She also had a hysterectomy about 5 years ago. We are nearly the same age (late 30s) and she'll constantly make remarks about how happy she is that she had a child when she was young and "I could not do it again at my age..." etc. etc. I'm really on the fence about whether or not I want children, mainly because I am horrified at the sight of a pregnant woman (I know. I know...it's not very nice of me, but I'm being honest). I find that reverse psychology works very well when I use it on her. I've never confronted her about her "true" feelings because I think it would be out of line on my part. It's obvious, though, that she deeply regrets that she can no longer have children and that she struggles with this probably on a daily basis, otherwise why would she feel the need to trumpet that to me so often. GOODNESS!!! I don't understand women who define womanhood by getting pregnant. Does anyone have any advice about this? Anything that I could say that would let her know that I KNOW what's behind the smokescreen? I'm not a jealous/envious person by nature, so I'm having difficulty finding ways to deal with a person like this, especially because I certainly do not want to cause her anymore pain than she is obviously experiencing in her life. Thanks!