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I really don't believe in sleeping with a guy if we're not married but I've never held to it cause I get carried away by emotion. But, I can't sleep with someone I don't love, who doesn't love me as well, so it is often several months before I get horizontal with a guy. Because of this I've been called everything from a prude to a purist, and even a debutant, from guys who are used to getting laid within the first 5 dates.

Just curious...how long do you wait?

It, really has to do with the person. To young I would say wait....you could regret it, ya know. Make sure you are ready emotionally. You will know when the time is right. Don't be forced by your partner either... Have a great weekend.

Meh, f*ck those people who have something to say about it (no pun intended). I wait a lot longer than a few months and I have no shame about it (but I do make sure to make it known to a guy that I'm not putting out, both so he has no expectations and so if he was hoping to move faster and can't deal with not doing so, he has plenty of time to say "you're not the girl for me").

Do whatever feels right to you. Anyone who can't respect that isn't worth the time it takes to tell them it's none of their business.

One should never submit under pressure. If the guy can't wait until marriage then it really isn't worth it. Exercising chastity will make a marriage stronger if it should come to that.

If a guy calls you names because you won't sleep with him, then clearly he values the sex more than he values getting to know you. Guys like that are not keepers. Besides, the longer you guys wait, the more you'll learn about each other and when you finally do give it up, it'll be much more intimate and rewarding.

I don't neccesarily think you have to wait until marriage, although if that's what some people prefer that's great! I think it really has to do with being comfortable with the person (and yourself) and why you're doing it. It's really important to build a strong foundation on trust and respect before becoming sexually intimate. Whether that takes a month, or a year is totally up to you and your partner.

Dont sleep with him until marriage.
If he really loves you he will be happy to wait.
If he doesnt like that - flick him - the sooner the better.
I know it sounds harsh, but I have learnt through sad experience. If it saves the heartache and misery, it will be worth it.

Dont let him win.
Best of luck.

you can sleep with someone the day you meet them.









As long as you sleep, that is.....

Thanks guys and gals. I don't feel like the world's last living prude anymore. Though I would never change my beliefs because some guy is impatient, I was beginning to feel like there wasn't a guy left out there who would wait. It's nice to know that many of you are doing the same thing and are still finding dates and relationships.