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#253226 07/26/06 03:09 PM
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Have a "committment" party--you still get presents.

Our property was purchased under a partnership agreement--sort of like buying a business. One dies, it goes to the other partner or whomever we've directed in our wills to give it to. No biggie. Same with the rest of the things we'd plop into a will-stock shares, bank balances, whatever. As long as we keep the wills up to date, we're good.

Each of us also has limited power of attorney over the other--in case of things like medical problems (my accident), infirmity, etc., we can make decisions for one another. And we've taken care of all of the advanced directives, DNR, etc. should there be something life threatening.

Insurance is taken care of by our employers.

So, as long as we're both making less than $100K a year we're better off tax wise as singletons.

For us, marriage would be just a piece of paper--we already have the commitment. And we don't have kids to protect.


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#253227 07/26/06 05:59 PM
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True...although I very much enjoyed my wedding and the ceremony of it all....and I don't know if my parents would have been so willing to shell out the big bucks for a commitment party. You're definitely right in that it makes no difference in respect to your level of commitment to each other; my husband's and my relationship stayed exactly the same (it took me about a year to stop calling him my boyfriend) and that's because we had already made the emotional commitment to each other a long time before. It sounds like you and your SO are being very practical and have covered all your bases so that you don't have the problems that other nonmarried couples face, but I like my traditional marriage.


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#253228 07/31/06 11:44 PM
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[color:"purple"] You can always get a haircut or dye job and peole might notice it. <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> [/color]


If motherhood doesn't interest you, don't do it. It didn't interest me, so I didn't do it. Anyway, I would have made a terrible parent. The first time my child didn't do what I wanted, I'd kill him."
--Katherine Hepburn
#253229 08/01/06 02:49 PM
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I was married once & have no intention of doing it again. Everything's in my name only & it's going to stay that way. My sister is in my will just because she's my sister, but also because I know she will take in my dogs. I'm probably going to do a trust fund so the state can't touch anything. And I'm going to do a living will to give her power there too. I do have a boarder & he does the things around the house that need to be done. Plus he & the dogs love each other. We are also best friends. I'm very non-traditional so getting married again doesn't appeal to me. Also the mentioned tax benefit for being single too. As someone mentioned too, you probably already know in your gut what you want. Just listen to it. I know any time I've gone against my gut feeling it's always been wrong. So I don't do it any more.

#253230 08/05/06 12:22 PM
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PepeluTivursky, that's beautiful! <img src="/images/graemlins/heart.gif" alt="" />

Howdy from your recently-married, childfree neighbor in Indiana. {{waves hello}}


<img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> It's a pleasure to meet you!


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#253231 08/07/06 01:35 PM
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[color:"blue"] Funny and sad how they have a tax credit trying to encourage people to get married. No wonder there is a 50%+ divorce rate. [/color]


If motherhood doesn't interest you, don't do it. It didn't interest me, so I didn't do it. Anyway, I would have made a terrible parent. The first time my child didn't do what I wanted, I'd kill him."
--Katherine Hepburn
#253232 08/07/06 02:03 PM
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I'm one of those "Religious" people - I'm a Christian - and so marriage is not a contract, it's an unbreakable covenant. Not that that's all that true anymore, but it's true for me. My husband and I are better together than each one is individually, so marriage is the route we took. The day-in-day-out challenges (I'm ADD and my husband suffers from depression - now THAT's a combination!) force us to deal with issues head on because divorce isn't an option for us - by choice. It's made us better people, and created a wonderfully safe haven for us to live out our storms in. I love being married!

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#253233 08/07/06 04:32 PM
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#253234 08/08/06 12:40 AM
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[color:"blue"] Exactly, Freespirit. I'll keep my infertility, much like I've said it another posting. Getting help with infertility or adopting costs too much anyways.[/color]

Last edited by WaterLily3422; 08/08/06 12:41 AM.

If motherhood doesn't interest you, don't do it. It didn't interest me, so I didn't do it. Anyway, I would have made a terrible parent. The first time my child didn't do what I wanted, I'd kill him."
--Katherine Hepburn
#253235 08/08/06 12:42 AM
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[color:"blue"] I'm not religious, but I'm a christian. I got married b/c that's what I wanted, but I'm not going to judge those who do not. [/color]


If motherhood doesn't interest you, don't do it. It didn't interest me, so I didn't do it. Anyway, I would have made a terrible parent. The first time my child didn't do what I wanted, I'd kill him."
--Katherine Hepburn
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