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Welcome to the forums, amp_espi_wri! (does that stand for something?)

I understand where you're coming from. I decided to marry young because it's what I've always wanted, and I decided I never want kids, and I get a lot of condescending [censored] for both of these things. Why do people think it's any of their business?

Only you know what will make you happy. That's why you shouldn't judge someone else's life decisions -- they're just doing what makes them happy. (Except in the case of having kids, which is a delusion of happiness; see my "time article" post. Ha ha ha.)

I have a sister that's your age and she has had talks with me about not getting married. I don't think she's made a firm decision about it, but her feelings are crystal clear in my eyes -- she just doesn't want that kind of commitment, and that's just fine. It's similar with my mom -- she's not remarrying. She's single and enjoying it.

Anyway, I accept your choices as valid, and despite the "married no kids" title of the forum, we've had a lot of single posters here as well. So, welcome, and we're glad to have you! <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

and if you're prospective husband/wife is loaded then even better.

It always amazes me that people feel that they have only Correct lifestyle" e.g.you get married, you have kids. That is ridiculous.

Marriage, if you want it, is between two people, period.

I know a few couples who have children and regret it very much. They feel that they ceased to exist as a person and as a couple. If you want to be child-free, I support your decision all the way.

If others cannot understand or support your decision, then they don't deserve your time and friendship. No one has the right to tell you how to live your life.

Thanks for the warm welcome! I really enjoy all the support and helpful comments on this forum - you all are so nice! It's nice to know I'll have quick and thoughtful comebacks to those snide remarks about my choices. Oh, and the amp_espi_wri does stand for something, in three parts - my initials, the beginning of my favorite sounding word: espionage, and the beginning of what I'm going to be : a writer!

[color:"darkgreen"] I've seen many of people have kids and then they are very severely miserable. My in-laws, for example. [/color] <img src="/images/graemlins/irish.gif" alt="" />

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[color:"darkgreen"]And of course they try to conform you, you know. [/color] <img src="/images/graemlins/irish.gif" alt="" />

I'm getting married because marriage is not about children. Marriage is about a partnership. Yes, one outcome of that partnership could possibly be children - but it's not a requirment.
I'm getting married because I wish to act as a leaning shoulder, a rock and a support for my fiance. I want to help him when he's hurting, comfort him when he's sad and support him in all of his dreams. I want to experience the beauties and hardships of life with him by my side because he gives me strength to face the day <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

[color:"red"] What's worse is when it's your family, ya know.[/color] <img src="/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

[color:"red"] That's why *I* got married! Congrats on getting married btw! [/color] <img src="/images/graemlins/fish.gif" alt="" />