Oh I'm so sorry, you really need some time to grieve and heal. And it sounds like it might not be a bad idea to get some grief counseling for you and your husband.
Many people don't understand that losing a baby in pregnancy is just as painful as losing a child that has been born. He or she was your child regardless and you formed attachments and started making plans and dreams. And you've been hit hard twice. This is not something to go through alone.
It is also not healthy for your husband not to speak of it at all. If he continues to bury his gried internally, it will eat him up (I have first hand expereince with this.) It can add up to severe depression, mood swings, withdrawal, and sometimes worse.
This is a time when you two need each other's love more than ever, but it is so hard when both of you are hurting so badly. Please consider seeking a professional counselor - ask your OB/GYN if he(she) can recommend one.
I will be keeping you in my prayers.